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Trauma Bonds Why You Keep Attracting "The Wrong Man"

By: Alexis Taiwo
Narrated by: Jessie Clark Funk
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Summary

Share one woman's spiritual journey as she speaks out against abuse and neglect and figures out why you keep attracting “The Wrong Man”.

Trauma Bonds is a unique, powerful, authentic, and insightful self-help memoir. Alexis Taiwo chose to teach through her memoir for maximum impact to express the phenomenon she experienced. The story is a mirror on which you can reflect your own. Alexis hopes that hurting women will find closure through her transparent tale.

Sympathetic and curious listeners will gain a deeper awareness of this invisible pandemic as well.

Trauma Bonds is motivational, inspirational, and full of hope. Like reading a woman’s diary, the author lets you in on her reflective thoughts throughout. She offers guidance, introspection, and recovery as she walks you through her memoir.

You'll discover:

• How a seed can be planted to keep you on a hamster wheel of mistreatment, disappointment, and continuing to attract the wrong man.

• Witness the shadow of abuse follow Alexis across the world.

• Insightful and eye-opening. Women worldwide resonate with this unseen epidemic.

• Educational–it breaks down into helpful sub-headings for deeper understanding.

• This book can change the trajectory of your life! It did for the author.

And much, much more

Alexis is determined to get through to the listener in any way possible.

This evil phenomenon must stop! We can do something to prevent the havoc it is causing on woman's souls by sharing this book. This is a wake-up call for anyone who keeps attracting the wrong man into their lives. Trauma Bonds is wholesome, and redemptive after decades of abuse and heartache.

©2021 Alexis Taiwo (P)2023 Alexis Taiwo Abuse Child Abuse Dysfunctional Families Parenting & Families Relationships
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Sometimes, I felt this book was written about me;) But then I realized that my "picker" that was broken repaired itself. Haha. Realistically, it's likely we all have experienced choosing the wrong partner, whether a man or woman, which applies to both. Fortunately, this book is not only a story of one's wrong choices and how they came about, but it also gives practical advice on how to stop this cycle of madness. Highly recommended.

My Picker Was Broken Too

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I think this is a great start to educating yourself on trauma bonds - whether you're in a toxic relationship or getting out of one, or just want to understand why you are attracted to the wrong kind of men. This book is eye opening and, in a sense, made me feel relieved because I'm not the only one. It's not going to fix everything, but it's a good starting place to educate yourself. I also think it's a good resource for those who know a friend/family who are in a toxic relationship to read to get a better understanding what that person might be going through. Great read for those who are hurting, confused, this will encourage, lift you, give you the knowledge about what and why your going through and give the tools to get out.

Great book

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This touching self-help memoir unveils the personal experience of abuse within a relationship. As a man listening to this, I could not help but think about my past failed relationships and wish I had a handbook to help me avoid the Trauma Bonds that could have kept me from finding the wrong women in my life. I never thought about it as trauma or even considered it until teaching during the pandemic. I saw firsthand the expressions but only through their eyes revealed over the face mask. Abuse is bad, and should not be tolerated, no matter the sex, age, or color of one's skin. The key is to understand the symptoms or signs of an abusive relationship. I was a victim of an abusive, controlling relationship, and I was in full denial when former close friends tried to tell me to RUN. Listen and learn.

Hidden Scars

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This audiobook has provided me with a refreshed viewpoint of how some women stay with their abusers. The memoir was eye-opening, and although I do not have daughters, I have taught my sons to be respectable young men and treat women with the utmost respect. This author has a lot of strength and resilience, and I admire that although she was exposed negatively as a child, molested, and abused, it didn't stop her growth from succeeding, persevering, and self-heal with her faith in God.

This book will inspire many women, and I am glad the author had the courage to tell her story to help others.

Resilience & strength!

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I actually enjoyed this audiobook, although my stress hormones were sometimes triggered which I'm trying not to do with this kind of topic so I would highlight that as a warning to others who may have heightened stress responses to difficult relationship situations. I think this could've been considered based on the title and the narrator could have toned down the theatrics.

My love and compassion goes to the author, who most likely would've narrated it differently as is always the case and difficulty with audiobooks, but the narrator did do a good job and her voice is nice to listen to.

I listened to this book in order to gain some understanding of my own patterns in my relationships and their connection to my childhood traumas. I'm currently having EMDR psychotherapy to address these traumas and reprocess my memories as an adult, so its useful to see how the threads weave through my life. Ive been struggling with a trauma bond with my ex for the past year or so and have been so confused as to how I can want his validation even though he neglected my emotional needs and emotionally abused me... I needed more information on the trauma bonding process...

I found the story useful when reflecting on my own situation, seeing how the authors life evolved from early trauma and the patterns and reasons for lack of empowerment, all helped me connect my own dots. My trauma and ensuing damaging relationships is not as shocking as the authors on paper, however it doesn't matter how someone invalidates you, destroys your voice and your sense of power over what happens to you.. it can all leave us in the same vulnerable cycle of believing the promise of love, belonging and acceptance. And as the author points out, it only gets worse over time - I thought i was learning lessons after each damaging relationship, only to come out of the next one feeling even more broken, worthless and powerless.

I dropped a star because the author connects her ability to get out of the bad relationships to her asking God for help, which I accepted as a fine at first, however it went beyond my ability to accept it because I felt it actually disempowers people who need to believe they do actually have the power within them to fight for their freedom and to be treated well. Explaining that the devil puts abusers on this planet to reduce the power of good people is not helpful to me and as I don't have a religious practice this did not resonate and I feel let's the book down.

For anyone needing to feel empowered, I found the following book really helpful - the latter chapters sparked me into life to start my journey of caring for myself (the author explains how to do this) and seeing the importance of prioritising that self-care: Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, Gaslighting, Codependency, Trauma Bond & Complex PTSD by Madison Bright

I also listened to Trauma Bonding: Understanding and Overcoming the Trauma Bond in a Narcissistic Relationship by Lauren Kozlowski which is only 1.5hrs long and a helpful addition to knowledge of trauma bonding, although lacks a little in the last section about breaking a trauma bond.

Going back to the book I'm reviewing, I'd recommend this book as a break from the usual self help books which are more intense explanations rather than a continual story, the story element made my brain reflect on the patterns in a more gentle way.

As a side note, my journey is really highlighting the connection between honouring and acknowledging our values, and creating the boundaries that protect those values. That's what makes us able to live the life we want and attract the people who respect and care about us. I strongly advise against having another romantic relationship while doing this healing work.

Tim Fletcher has some great videos on Complex Trauma and healing on YouTube.

I hope this review is helpful, love to everyone needing to find their answers and self-empowerment... You're worth so much more than you believe x

Interesting and helpful memoir

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