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To Be a Gay Man

Narrated by: Will Young
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In To Be a Gay Man, Will Young speaks out about gay shame, revealing the impact it had on his own life, how he learned to deal with it and how he can now truthfully say he is gay and happy.

We know Will as a multi-platinum recording artist, Olivier-nominee and the first winner of the Idol franchise. But his story began long before his first audition. Looking back on a world where growing up being called gay was the ultimate insult and coming out after a lifetime of hiding his sexuality, Will explores the long-lasting impact repressing his true self has had.

As Will’s own story demonstrates, internalised shame in childhood increases the risk of developing low self-worth, and even self-disgust, leading to destructive behaviours in adult life.

Will revisits the darkest extremes he has been to, sharing his vulnerabilities, his regrets, tracing his own navigation through it all and showing the way for others who might have felt alone in the same experience.

Here you will find a friend, champion and mentor, breaking taboos with frank honesty and offering invaluable practical advice on overcoming the difficult issues too often faced within the LGBTQ+ community.

©2020 Will Young (P)2020 Penguin Audio

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Just wonderful.

Will is incredibly honest about his life. The highs and the lows and he doesn't hold back with the difficult times he has come through. There are quite a few laugh out loud moments too. The situations he found himself in and some of people he met on his journey. He has a great sense of humor, is very self depreciating. I won't spoilt it for the future readers, but his loud, verbal reaction to the boys hassling the busker is a classic. I found particularly interesting the section of the book on the way some journalists and media personalities had treated him. Pretty appallingly to be blunt. I recommend this book as it is, in all honestly, seriously good. A real pleasure to get to know much more about this talented chap's life. Great read.

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To be or not to be Gay or Not a book for everyone to get the message

l went straight into the Audio book and could not stop listening to it. Will has a mesmerising voice. l just loved it and found Will’s journey throughout sad in parts and also so helpful to those going through the same realisations. l also thought it would help straight people to have a better understanding of what gay people have to deal with

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Will Young’s interesting account highlighting the issues of gay shame in society

An interesting personal account by Will Young that will hopefully help to open the conversation about gay shame and the lasting effects experienced by lgbtq+ people growing up in a heteronormative society.

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An emotional and very interesting journey.

Like many, I first heard of Will Young through the reality program he won. The book is contemplative and reflective on his sexuality within the societal expectations of the time. He discusses how, despite his wishes, his first PR team worked to prevent the media publishing he was gay, even rushing him from an interview when it seemed the question was going to be asked. When eventually it was published Elton John had sent him a bouquet of flowers. He explores the shame that often still surrounds someone who's sexuality lies outside societies perceived norms and how that can impact children and adults perception of themselves. The conclusions of these are often profoundly negative, affecting the whole of their lives. I will listen to this book again, probably on many occasions as there is so much to learn from Will's journey and those of gay men at varying points in our history.

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Hooray! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Thanks Will. This honest unapologetic meander through your life/minds eye, is so powerful for me. I feel/felt a lot of what you describe resonate and I’m lucky enough to have a life/husband that transcends my expectation. My husband and I have become our own emotional compass through life. I wish you all the luck, good fortune and continued success. From this Gay Man Jamie

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A wonderful book

Will explores the topic of Gay Shame, using the lens of his life. Part memoir, part essay, this is a timely exploration of feelings many have to deal with. Timely, important and something I'd recommend, in particular, for younger queers (and all queers) still finding their place in the world. Recommended.

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Short book but very insightful

I really enjoyed this book I resonated with a lot of Will's situations, not the pop star bits obvs. He comes across so well and gave a real insight into his world. Well worth a listen whether you are gay, straight or indeed anyone really to learn what life can be like if you're a gay man in your late 30s onwards.

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Brilliant and enlightening

Thank you Will for putting into words stuff I’ve felt for years without realising. Now I guess I can start working on myself!

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Really quite special...

This book is honest, warm and funny. Will uses personal experience to educate and inspire. Loved it.