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This Is How It Always Is

By: Laurie Frankel
Narrated by: Gabra Zackman
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About this listen

The Reese Witherspoon x Hello Sunshine Book Club Pick.

A New York Times Audio best seller.

This is how a family keeps a secret...and how that secret ends up keeping them.

This is how a family lives happily ever after...until happily ever after becomes complicated.

This is how children change...and then change the world.

This is Claude. He's five years old, the youngest of five brothers, and loves peanut butter sandwiches. He also loves wearing a dress, and dreams of being a princess.

When he grows up, Claude says, he wants to be a girl.

Rosie and Penn want Claude to be whoever Claude wants to be. They're just not sure they're ready to share that with the world. Soon the entire family is keeping Claude's secret. Until one day it explodes.

Laurie Frankel's This Is How It Always Is is a novel about revelations, transformations, fairy tales, and family. And it's about the ways this is how it always is: change is always hard and miraculous and hard again, parenting is always a leap into the unknown with crossed fingers and full hearts, children grow but not always according to plan. And families with secrets don't get to keep them forever.

©2017 Laurie Frankel (P)2017 Macmillan Audio
Family Life Fiction Genre Fiction Women's Fiction Heartfelt Inspiring Thought-Provoking Funny

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Critic reviews

"A lively and fascinating story of a thoroughly modern family and the giant, multifaceted love that binds them.... Sparkles with wit and wisdom." (Maria Semple, best-selling author of Where'd You Go, Bernadette)

"An intelligent, life-affirming, emotionally charged story." (Prima)

"Every once in a while, I read a book that opens my eyes in a way I never expected." (Reese Witherspoon, Reese's Book Club x Hello Sunshine book pick)

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Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

For sure. It's brilliantly written and the plot is like nothing i've ever read before. It has changed the way I think about gender.

What was one of the most memorable moments of This Is How It Always Is?

The relationship between mother, father and their 'child' - I loved seeing how they guided Claude/Poppy through her childhood.

What does Gabra Zackman bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you had only read the book?

Softly narrated in a tone that made me cry - more than once!

Did you have an emotional reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

For sure, cry. But in a heart warming way.

Brilliant, beautiful, sad and thought provoking

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Loved this book, spanning the childhood of a youngest child in a loving family whose inside gender becomes an issue.
Did Not like the narrators voice and expression but it did not ruin the storyline like some narration can. I wish more attention was given to matching voices with content. This one just grated on me and would deter me from future reads ( sorry but annoying and insincere)
This story flows gently focusing on various points along the childhood of Claude.
It’s thought provoking and questioned how I would manage given the storyline. And I will remember this book.. although I won’t connect it to the title for long. I liked the way it is written and the way the story unfolds warts and all.

Eye opening view of gender confusion in a child

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What a totally amazing listen. Captivated from the fire st line. I felt I was part of the family!! Funny, poignant, beautifully written and makes you think.

Loved this book

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Emotional, heart breaking, heart warming, insiteful, comical, thought provoking and full of love. It has taught me how we must embrace differences, grow and learn.

Loved it!

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Amazing, totally amazing- a fabulous story through and through!!!! A great performance from the narrator too. Just a great great listen 😁

fantastic start to finish

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