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The Panic Years

By: Nell Frizzell
Narrated by: Nell Frizzell
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Summary

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The Panic Years: something between adolescence and menopause, a personal crisis, a transformation.

The panic years can hit at any time but they are most commonly triggered somewhere between the ages of 25 and 40. During this time, every decision a woman makes - from postcode to partner, friends to family, work to weekends - will be impacted by the urgency of the one decision with a deadline, the one decision that is impossible to take back: whether or not to have a baby.

But how to stay sane in such a maddening time?

How to understand who you are and what you might want from life?

How to know if you're making the right decisions?

Raw, hilarious and beguilingly honest, Nell Frizzell's account of her panic years is both an arm around the shoulder and a campaign to start a conversation. This affects us all - women, men, mothers, children, partners, friends, colleagues - so it's time we started talking about it with a little more candour. 

©2019 Nell Frizzell (P)2019 Penguin Audio

Critic reviews

"Every millennial woman should have it on her bookshelf." (Pandora Sykes, journalist and cohost of The High Low Podcast)

"Vital reading. Nell Frizzell is a master." (Rob Delaney, cowriter and costar of Catastrophe)

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The panic is real… and normal

I found this book exactly when I needed it - at the beginning of my own ‘panic years.’ I was so glad to know that what I was feeling was normal and that I wasn’t alone. My friends had just surprised me by starting to have babies and so as they were researching how to have babies I was researching what happens when your friends have babies. I felt such a feeling of panic and disillusionment but when I voiced it to other people they just shrugged and said ‘that’s life.’ I am so glad that I listened to this book although I’m still not sure if I want to have a baby…

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Really enjoyed this, especially as it was read by the author.

This took me back 20 years to age 30, very well observed and pretty intimate! Loved hearing about her family and I particularly liked the catch up at the very end- a nice touch!

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Must read for all women!

This is a beautifully and honest written book and a must read for any woman aged 25-35 in particular! It was so comforting to know all my thoughts and feelings about the flux are felt by so many others - will recommend to all my friends! Thanks for putting this into the world Nell - I feel less alone!

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Loved it

Thank you for writing this book and for your honesty, it was exactly what I needed to hear at the moment.

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Loved it!

What a wonderful book. I laughed, cried and resonated with so much of this. When a writer not only shines a mirror to your own life but helps you make sense of it, you feel heard. Gosh and the chapter describing what it’s like giving birth - think that should be included in all NCT classes! A masterclass in describing the indescribable.

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Amazing

As someone in the panic years, thank you!! Your words have been so comforting and helpful I felt like you read my mind!

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got a bit boring

It started off well and it does touch on some good points but then it was just about her life and her pregnancy/life with a baby - which I think in itself would be triggering for the supposed audience. by the end I found it really difficult to listen too in places. I also found the book full of privilege so found it hard to relate too.

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Great read provides real insight

Great read as a young women it gave me insights I could relate to and others I couldn't which is the beauty of this book. It highlights different and similar experiences women face. I did find it slightly repetitive. Well performance and easy to listen to.

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Just what I needed.

I absolutely loved it, I really resonated with a lot of the story and it was nice to not feel completely alone, especially being 30 and now only thinking about the Flux! I'm not obsessed with your podcast now too. Thank you so much.

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It was great overall but

Some parts made me even more scared e.g. the success stats of egg freezing, made me feel even more panicked like my plan B,C,D was pointless and I should just have a baby immediately to avoid missing my chance.

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