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Summary

It doesn’t matter what the habit is that you want to change - I’m going to show you how to do it. And how to make those changes last forever. (Shahroo Izadi)

The Kindness Method is the key to breaking unwanted habits for good. By combining her own therapeutic style, personal experience and techniques learned from working in substance misuse, Shahroo Izadi shares simple steps that help strengthen your willpower like a muscle, so you can sustain motivation for the long haul.

Shahroo shares her totally non-judgemental and flexible process for mapping and changing your habits, based on treating yourself with the compassion and understanding that would normally be reserved for others. It works for everything from procrastination to alcohol consumption and body positivity because the plan is bespoke: mapped by you, for you and driven by self-motivation.

Shahroo will teach how to:

  1. Believe you can change.
  2. Clarify your reasons for changing.
  3. Plan how you’re going to do it.
  4. Prepare for what is likely to throw you off track.

Start mapping your habits, setting your own goals with honesty and start treating yourself with the kindness you truly deserve!

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your Library section along with the audio.

©2018 Shahroo Izadi (P)2018 Macmillan Digital Audio

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I am surprised but this really works

I have read a lot of personal development books in my time, had given up on finding strategies to change and I was resigned to just muddle through my difficulties. But this book is different. There is no quick fix and in fact you need to have patience to do things slowly and the capacity for self reflection. Shahroo doesn’t tell you what to you but show you how to see how you mess up and get in the way in the first place. She also points out that falling down as you make progress is also part of your journey. Loved her voice and I can see why she is a great therapist. The PDF files for the written exercises were a little confusing as she doesn’t tell you in the Audio book when to use them. In the end I found it easier to get the paperback from Amazon so I could move back and forward when I needed. You can do this on the Kindle but I wanted a physical book. For the first time in a long time I feel hopeful about solving my problems. Thank you Shahroo.

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Fantastic book

I am so glad I came across this book. Its full of useful and practical advise about changing habits and self improvement. It suggests workable techniques which anyone can do and examples which we can all relate to one way or another.

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Thought Provoking and Fascinating

Thoroughly worthwhile book, full of good ideas, useful tools and exercises and quite inspirational. Would recommend it to anyone who wants to have a healthier relationship with themselves

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Engaging, real life based and practical

I bought this after attending a workshop of Shahroo’s a week ago and it’s “unputdownable”. Shahroo makes what is often a dry unrelatable subject interesting and comforting whilst motivating!! Well done Shahroo, this is seriously life changing in a non woo woo way :)

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Now bought the book

I was really interested in this book which took me by surprise as I don’t like self help books.
The author is informal and relatable and the theory of being kind to yourself is oddly radical.

I bought the book as soon as I finished the audiobook and bought a journal too, so I could do the work as the book recommends. I was really motivated to do the programme but it’s now been three weeks and I still haven’t opened the book...

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Be kind to yourself

I suspect that this book by behavioural change specialist Shahroo Izadi has much in common with other self help books. What makes it different from the others, however, is that the author has been there herself having struggled with weight management and can relate her own challenges with the advice she gives to others in this guide. It is a relatively short book, and around the first third is devoted to informing the reader/ listener why this works and how it can be applied to help a person change their behaviour. By the time it gets to the section that actually outlines what the Kindness Method actually entails the reader / listener has been suitably conditioned into complying with the instructions. I suspect many people will want to cut to the chase and go straight to the guts of what this book is about. This book works best with the support of a qualified counselor and whilst the methodology is possibly nothing groundbreaking in terms of its content (self assessment, maps and targets) it would form a useful framework for anyone suck in a cycle of negative behaviour who wants to break out and change. Where this book does differ is that it is not as judgmental as other methods and acknowledges that we should set attainable goals and be kind to ourselves.

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Real, practical and grounded

This book was recommended to me by a fellow Life Coach when I realised that short term goals and beating-up self assessments weren’t working for me or my clients. I was hooked instantly when Sharoo told her own story and her real life work. This practical, real and grounded approach was appealing and useable. It’s short, full of action and mercifully free of baffling theory. Thanks Sharoo for the inspiration, empathy and action.

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Not for Everybody

I wanted to really love this book but was totally disappointed. Quite a chunk of it is about dealing with negative self talk, lack of morale and feeling proud of yourself. The other chunk is about dealing with drug addiction, drinking and over-eating problems. If you don't relate to any of the above, there is hardly any value addition.

The author also makes the assumption that we are likely to have picked the book because something has gone awfully wrong (Sigh). While the tone of the book may work for 1-2-1 counselling, it is a bit condescending for a general self help book. The narration was a bit monotonous especially when the author was reading out statements that we could fill in.

The book is great for people with addiction issues or suffering from negative self talk. However, it is definitely not for people who already treat themselves kindly, who are proud of their achievements and who are not battling with addiction of any sort. Also, if you want to get it, you will be better off with a paper back than the audible format.

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good listen

ok so I'm a 46 year old male an I found this book really useful a lot of transferable issues with maps an ideas to create a process. I will listen to this again an put the maps into effect thanks

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A refreshing and reflective listen - loved it!

Beautifully written and read by the author.
Shahroo Izadi shares her learnings and experiences about addiction and habits.
Lots to learn here.