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The Gentle Discipline Book

How to raise co-operative, polite and helpful children
Narrated by: Katy Sobey
Length: 7 hrs and 32 mins
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Summary

Discipline is a vital part of child-rearing, but many parents misunderstand how to use it and attempt to control their child's behaviour via a combination of punishment and motivation. Yet while this traditional approach may appear to produce quick results, it can potentially damage the child and, in the long term, leave parents with a far worse problem than they had initially.

The Gentle Discipline Book analyses common discipline techniques and explains why so many are ineffective. It focuses on helping parents understand why children misbehave and how to respond in a way that will help them work with - rather than against - their child.

Gentle discipline focuses on teaching and learning rather than punishing. With plenty of practical advice and case studies from real families, it will enable parents to set boundaries and enforce them with compassion and respect; it also demonstrates how parents can inspire children to be better and do better and how to set a great example for them. Gentle parenting is not about being a pushover - it means understanding children and having realistic expectations of them as well as responding appropriately and consistently.

The book covers a range of ages, and the principles it contains work with toddlers, tweens and teenagers equally well - because it helps parents respond to the unique needs of each individual child. As well as providing a framework that will enable parents to become experts in their own child's behaviour, The Gentle Discipline Book provides solutions to common problems such as whining and sulking, aggressive behaviour, refusal to do things, rudeness, sibling rivalry, lying, low self-esteem and a lack of confidence.

©2016 Sarah Ockwell-Smith (P)2016 Little Brown Book Group

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Wow - a MUST read

This book may have literally changed my life as a mother. I am a single mum with 2 little girls ages 4 and a half & 6 and a half. They stay with daddy every other weekend. This book has made me understand my eldest daughter so much more! To put myself in her shoes and to really think about what she must be thinking at the time. Thank you!!!!

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Worth Every Peeny!

I have read a few Books on Raising Children and this one definitely seems the Best for Sure.Great practical advice that i needed. Straightforward and very well written!

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A must read for every parent of any age.

Great help and advice for prospective parents, parents, grand parents and even great grandparents.
Empathise with the child seems to be the core value running throughout this book.
Wish I had read it 40 years ago, but now is the next best time.
Can't recommend this book highly enough.

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Content is great but I'm not keen on the voice

Really useful content and I'm picking up tips. However I don't feel there's any feeling or passion in the narrator's voice (she's not the author) and it's like listening to someone read a child a story with no expression. I'll stick with it as I won't get round to reading it myself on my kindle, but I think a different voice artist (with understanding of and passion for the subject) would have been better.

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One of the best books ever

Absolutely couldn't recommend it enough.
Lifesaver, sanity saver, eye opener.
Came when I needed the most. Thank you so much for writing this. I'm sure I'll refer back to it many times in the future

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Very Helpful

I enjoyed listening to this book. I found all the answers to my questions and more on how to handle my 4 year old peacefully. Full of examples and tips that apply to all ages from toddlers to teens. Its only been a few days but I've had great success using the steps and methods so far.

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Absolutely brilliant book

Full of helpful, effective solutions to problems. Real life expamples of how to use the guidance. Has made a big difference to me and given me the confidence to parent respectfully and how I want to. So thought provoking and makes you question everything you are told about discipline and how ineffective and short term mainstream approaches are. I have gained a lot of confidence and helpful strategies from this book that help me stay calm and create a happy home, with happy children. So glad I read it.

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very interesting and effective

clear instructions that work!! worthwhile for any parents. Narration is fine and book broke into sensible chapters

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Brilliant, as usual.

the best combination of evidence based information and real practical experience to help you implement the concepts! so real and so needed in our world!

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life changing

Fantastic book, this has turned my way of thinking completely around. also has helped me immensely as a teacher, although i purchased it as a parent thank you!

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  • Jenny
  • 04-01-18

THE definitive book for parenting help

Brilliantly written by a real human being who has been through all the same struggles all us parents have been, are currently, or will eventually go through. The suggestions and advice found in this book are the best and most sound I’ve ever heard anywhere. Ockwell-Smith emphasizes addressing the root causes of your child’s behavior in such a way that you need never make them feel bad while still encouraging them to grow into the best person they can be. I wish that all parents could read or listen to this book and put it into practice. We would surely live in a much more pleasant world were that the case.

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  • MJW
  • 27-08-19

Sound & Balanced Advice

So glad that I gave this book a listen. Will probably listen to it again. You can feel good about things you may be doing right and get some wonderful tips for positive changes that are needed. Thank you Sarah!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 14-05-19

First third was very good, doubtful about the rest

The second part of the book contradict the first part and it's hard to differ between good and useless advise.