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Kiera Van Gelder's first suicide attempt at the age of 12 marked the onset of her struggles with drug addiction, depression, post-traumatic stress, self-harm, and chaotic romantic relationships - all of which eventually led to doctors' belated diagnosis of borderline personality disorder 20 years later.

The Buddha and the Borderline is a window into this mysterious and debilitating condition, an unblinking portrayal of one woman's fight against the emotional devastation of borderline personality disorder. This haunting, intimate memoir chronicles both the devastating period that led to Kiera's eventual diagnosis and her inspirational recovery through therapy, Buddhist spirituality, and a few online dates gone wrong. Kiera's story sheds light on the private struggle to transform suffering into compassion for herself and others, and is essential listening for all seeking to understand what it truly means to recover and reclaim the desire to live.

©2010 Kiera Van Gelder (P)2017 Post Hypnotic Press Inc.

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Validating and inspiring.

Very validating to hear that somebody else has had similar experiences too me, some such minor details that ring so true. Has inspired me to visit my local Buddhist centre.

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wow raw truth and I loved the way at the end you show your not healed but we manage and can continue to manage recognize and move on and grow. wicked book !

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This was okay, but it got quite repetitive

Lost interest about half way through as it just seemed to repeat itself. Shows the real struggle and a failed healthcare system, but wish it was more of a journey how she had come on and more of a positive spin on things

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If you have BPD this is a must read/listen

I was recently diagnosed with BPD. I have always suffered but getting the diagnosis was a turning point for me that's when I could see what was happening to me what I have battled with my whole life. I've had two hospital trips since and still not getting the correct help or treatment so I have been relying on Harbinger work books and self care. All the books I have come across have been like a guide you pick up from the pet shop on how to care for a destructive rescue dog (aka your BPD loved one)
This book was the first from my perspective. It was like hearing my own life story again and now I feel like I have some next steps I can take.
Thank you for telling your story, Keira Van Gelder.

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So helpful welwritten, but reader voice annoying

So helpful thanks kiera for sharing n showing the light, bought this books years ago but dint read cause I don't lik the r tea sets voice,,, but content is great

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Inspiring

I LOVED this book! I could relate to it on an intrinsic level and found it insightful and inspiring. I’d give it 10 stars if I could!

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Empowering!

I loved this audible book! I was interested in DBT and came across it. The title had me curious, the sample had me hooked. It's so descriptive open and honest I could relate to the behaviours, the processes and the journey. The narration and speed of the read seemed fitting for the borderline mind. I think that therapists would find this insightful and people who have wondered and reflected about their personalities and partners too would find this enlightening. An ongoing process. Felt really positive and a great listen.

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  • Bob
  • 31-10-17

Clarity for a parent

As the parent of a 14 year old with BPD. Kiera gave me a clear picture of whats going on inside my daughter and the hope DBT therapy may help! As well its opened my eyes on how to listen in a different way. Fingers crossed for my daughter and for Kiera.

Thank you Kiera my heart is with you as well.

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  • Anne
  • 02-09-18

I was diagnosed

I was hospitalized and diagnosed in the hospital. When I came out I saw this book online doing research for myself so I bought it softcover and followed along while listening on here. It helped me a lot coming to rearms with bit all. Thank you

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  • Brianna Boyd
  • 20-10-19

Realistic

I have BPD and wow. The author seemed to have very low functioning BPD which I think really highlighted the internal struggle that people with this condition go through. At times, the story did move a bit slowly but I quite enjoyed the book and loved that the ending was optimistic but not unrealistic. Great memoir.

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  • Cecile B.
  • 25-07-19

The best book on BPD i have read

A movie should be made out of this book. I love love love the book. The story is so well written with so much honesty and openness. The content and all the info shared in the book is ever so helpful. Really well done to you Kiera Van Gelder.

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  • troyohna
  • 12-10-18

Excellent introduction and extremely well written

Such raw honesty with vivid details to really connect with readers, this book is a gift.

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  • margaret
  • 22-07-18

The Path to Order in Life

Lots of questions to start off. Through the book most were answered, all but the ones I need to ask myself. Is living with serenity and being translucent to myself worth it? My recommendation read this book. You’ll possibly learn what the read experienced and be able to identify your own answered to the issues you have or someone you know are dealing with.

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  • Stittsville Shopper
  • 07-04-17

useful book

So much useful information in the first three quarters of the book. The last bit goes way off track.

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  • Karaem
  • 28-08-20

Must read...

You catch yourself thinking: Oh, that’s me. I’ve done that before. Oh this book is personally attacking me! (Like when they say, raise your hand if you’ve ever been personally attacked by Regina George).

This book does a wonderful job at depicting the point from when she knew there was something wrong to the point of learning to live with a mental illness and surpassing even her own expectations.

I suspected I had BPD. I read this book after having a mental breakdown and being hospitalized. I looked up what I spent three days writing down after my hospitalization and BPD was the first thing. This book, along with therapy and medication has lead me to be in a better state of mind.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 13-02-19

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Loved it! Saw myself in this book, and a unique opportunity for healing as well.

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  • Kate Hamer
  • 26-10-18

thank you for this book!!!!

it only took me a few days to hear this book. very moving and inspiring. thank you so much Kiera!!!

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