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  • By: Eli J. Finkel
  • Narrated by: Mark Deakins
  • Length: 8 hrs and 15 mins
  • 4.3 out of 5 stars (13 ratings)
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Summary

"After years of debate and inquiry, the key to a great marriage remained shrouded in mystery. Until now...." (Carol Dweck, author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success) 

Eli J. Finkel's insightful and ground-breaking investigation of marriage clearly shows that the best marriages today are better than the best marriages of earlier eras. Indeed, they are the best marriages the world has ever known. He presents his findings here for the first time in this lucid, inspiring guide to modern marital bliss. 

The All-or-Nothing Marriage reverse engineers fulfilling marriages - from the "traditional" to the utterly nontraditional - and shows how any marriage can be better. 

The primary functions of marriage from 1620 to 1850 were food, shelter, and protection from violence; from 1850 to 1965, the purpose revolved around love and companionship. But today, a new kind of marraige has emerged, one oriented toward self-discovery, self-esteem, and personal growth. Finkel combines cutting-edge scientific research with practical advice; he considers paths to better communication and responsiveness; he offers guidance on when to recalibrate our expectations; and he even introduces a set of must-try "lovehacks". 

This is a book for the newlywed to the empy nester, for those thinking about getting married or remarried, and for anyone looking for illuminating advice that will make a real difference to getting the most out of marriage today. 

Includes a PDF of Supplemental Images and Graphics 

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2017 Eli J. Finkel (P)2017 Penguin Audio

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“After years of debate and inquiry, the key to a great marriage remained shrouded in mystery. Until now. In his All-or-Nothing Marriage, Eli Finkel reveals the fascinating ways in which marriage has evolved and the things we can all do to help this all-important relationship flourish. You will definitely want to read this book.” (Carol Dweck, Stanford professor and author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success)

“If you’ve ever wondered what science has to say about how marriage has changed over time and what makes for a great one, this is the book to read. Eli Finkel is one of the world’s leading experts on relationships, and his insights are both comprehensive and revealing.” (Adam Grant, author of Give and Take, Originals, and Option B, coauthored with Sheryl Sandberg)  

“Eli Finkel has written an incredible analysis of the state of marriage and a useful guide for everyone trying to make their relationship work better. He also promised us cheeseburgers if we wrote this blurb. Please get those to us ASAP, Eli.” (Aziz Ansari and Eric Klinenberg, coauthors of Modern Romance)

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The Traditional vs Egalitarian Marriage

I read via audible over 2 days. I couldn’t stop listening. Beat read ever on marriages. Takes you through the historical set up of marriages from the 1800s to the present day and how cultural shifts have influenced the marital union. There are scientific, psychological, social, pop culture and practical references based on extensive research over many years. He’s also cited works from renowned historians, psychologists, politicians and lecturers making this book heavily based on proven facts and experience. I highly recommend reading at whatever season you are. Whether you’re dating, just about to tie the knot, are 5 years in or 40 years into your marriage. Many people get married without understanding the purpose of this beautiful union. Prepare yourself for one of the most beautifully documented books on marriage and relationships! I’d read it again and make detailed notes this time! x

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