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The ADHD Effect on Marriage

Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps

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An invaluable resource for couples in which one of the partners suffers from attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), this authoritative book guides troubled marriages toward an understanding of and appreciation for the struggles and triumphs of a relationship affected by it and to look at the disorder in a more positive and less disruptive way. Going beyond traditional marriage counseling, this discussion offers advice from the author's personal experience and years of research and identifies patterns of behavior that can hurt marriages - such as nagging, intimacy problems, sudden anger, and memory issues - through the use of vignettes and descriptions of actual couples and their ADHD struggles and solutions. This resource encourages both spouses to become active partners in improving their relationship and healing the fissures that ADHD can cause.

©2010 Melissa Orlov (P)2017 Tantor Attention Deficit Disorders Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships Mental Health Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Marriage Special need Health Step Parenting
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It broke down with examples the problems that people with adhd in relationships face. As somebody that has been failing to rationalise the problems in my relationship, family, household and work, listening to this book changed things. My partner is awaiting adhd diagnosis. My step son and her son is diagnosed and medicated. I have been walking around under the impression that I am typical. My partner said to me some months ago that she thought I too had adhd. I dismissed it quickly and gave it little more thought. Recently I have been questioning so much why my mind is different and works differently. I asked my sibling who is diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome whether she thought I may be facing any neuro diversity issues. She immediately responded saying that I have adhd and ocd. I started to speak to my stepson on Friday about some of the things he faces with adhd. He said “so what you don’t have adhd?” He had automatically assumed I did seeing me demonstrate the same behaviours as himself. This prompted me to do an initial screener and needless to say I was off the charts with many of the traits. I spent 8 hours at the weekend listening to the whole book, I laughed I and cried throughout because I finally realised where we were going wrong. We are an entire household living with adhd, with one person that is meant to be taking leading role having the least understanding of what is looks like, coping strategies and how the behaviours affect others. Although I felt truly devastated after listening to the book I realised it had explained what was missing in really knowing myself and the problems I have been facing in my relationship. I can honestly say that if you are having problems in a relationship and one or more of you have adhd, then this book will really help to reframe your thinking, and might be what saves your relationship. That remains to be seen for me, but now I face the feelings of extreme guilt for getting so many things wrong but believing it is my partner and her adhd were contributing so much to our problems. In fact we have spent years misunderstanding each other and misinterpreting each other’s intentions, all because of undiagnosed adhd. My partner has waited for 2 years on an nhs waiting list. Today I triggered a private health care referral in the hope that I can get a fast diagnosis and truly make the changes needed to have a more considered and fulfilling life. This audio book is essentially the turning point for that. If you face similar issues read it and to will find yourself saying “now everything makes sense.”

Could be life changing for many

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A great book for anyone experiencing ADHD/ADD or living with someone with the condition.

Very helpful

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I am so grateful for this book. I recently split from my girlfriend who has ADHD. In fact she dumped me for about the 50th time. As soon as she felt us getting really close she would pull away. And pain would ensue. I have really struggled to understand her despite throwing myself heart and soul into the relationship. We still communicate now via text and occasionally see each other. It's hard to believe we will ever get back together though I still dearly love her. But this audiobook really helped understand her so much. It brought me to tears on many occasions. Thank you for helping me at least to understand her a little better. I wish I had listened to it much earlier in our relationship, perhaps (from my side at least) I could have reacted to certain stimuli in much better ways and things could have turned out differently. I'm very grateful for the act of generosity that this book is.

Liberating!

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I found this book to be very Relevant, the narrater was also pleasant to listen to and lots of tips to apply as you go.

So good I listened to it twice

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If you are an adhd person looking for strategy to save your relationship, steer away from this book. It’s written for the non adhd partner and gives strategy on how they should manage the relationship with an adhd person.
Totally useless for adhd people unless you want to gift it to your spouse

It’s for the non adhd partner

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