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The ADHD Effect on Marriage

Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps
Narrated by: Laura Jennings
Length: 8 hrs and 3 mins
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An invaluable resource for couples in which one of the partners suffers from attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), this authoritative book guides troubled marriages toward an understanding of and appreciation for the struggles and triumphs of a relationship affected by it and to look at the disorder in a more positive and less disruptive way. Going beyond traditional marriage counseling, this discussion offers advice from the author's personal experience and years of research and identifies patterns of behavior that can hurt marriages - such as nagging, intimacy problems, sudden anger, and memory issues - through the use of vignettes and descriptions of actual couples and their ADHD struggles and solutions. This resource encourages both spouses to become active partners in improving their relationship and healing the fissures that ADHD can cause.

©2010 Melissa Orlov (P)2017 Tantor

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  • Dennis
  • 01-09-17

must buy if you have adult adhd

this is eye opening. If you are an adult with ADHD or a spouse of an adult with ADHD. You must take the time to listen to this. It hits every aspect of a relationship and how ADHD has effected it.

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  • Philip Ian Harrison
  • 07-07-17

ADHD Relationship Decoder

I purchased this book after a breakup of a 9 year relationship. I had also had a divorce many years ago. This book blew my mind.

Chapter after chapter, I found most references in this book applied to my long term relationships. So strongly in fact I was brought to tears over and over, sobbing. I was unaware my ADHD played such a huge negative role in my relationships. I was floored.

If you have ADHD or have a partner with ADHD you unequivocally NEED to listen to this book. It is an eye opener and hopefully it will set you and your partner on a road to recovery.

I love you Konstantza and hope you will have me back so we can have a new relationship with all of the joys we are supposed to have.

Love always and forever,

Philip

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  • JohnnyFi
  • 04-09-17

ADHD spouse here, I finally feel like I have a plan to salvage the little bit I have left in my marriage!

I am so grateful this book is Finally on audiobook. I have a hard copy and have had it for several years now. I've been married for nearly 11 years. The beginning of the book almost exactly described the downfall my marriage has been going through. The fact that Melissa so perfectly describes what I've been through and does so with logic and compassion. She does a wonderful job explaining in a way that keeps me from feeling inept as a spouse.

The concepts are simple and a great summary recap is at the back of the book. Thank you Melissa, I haven't felt this much hope and confidence that I can build a foundation within the ashes of my currently failing marriage.

If you are reading my review and either one or. Out of you have adhd in your marriage. This is a really solid plan that sounds like it's going to work!

Good luck, it's hard but I know it will be worth it to get my relationship and my family in a good place. :)

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  • Anonymous User
  • 17-05-17

It thrilled me!

Only the Bible is bigger in my book! Melissa-amazing. Laura-well done. My ADHD thanks you!

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  • Brian Fisk
  • 03-03-19

Changed my life - I now have awareness

I turned to this book after my wife of 9 years had multiple affairs over the last year. When I started listening to the book, it was a mirror of my marriage. I had thought I was ADHD most of my life but never addressed it. I asked my dr about adderrall 3 years ago which he wrote a script and although it helped for some time, well as I said I recently found out about affairs. When I realized that ADHD symptoms could be the cause for the space between us (multiple examples) I seemed out help from an adhd specialist. I was formerly diagnose with ADHD and a serious case of it. For the last two months I have been working on myself and I have a new awareness that my first path of thinking is my ADHD and through the tools in this book and journaling my thoughts, I now now how to get to my second path of thinking. If you think you have ADHD or your partner does, read this book! I wish I could get my wife to read it but I haven’t been able to get her to. Although were working on our marriage through counseling, this book was was unlocked my mind and provided me with awareness. I can never go back to my old way of not being aware. This book may have changed my awareness forever... now to make change. Thank you.

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  • J. P. Roop
  • 31-12-17

A must read for couples

She speaks first hand and with more knowledge on ADHD in couples than anyone I have ever heard

If you wonder why your spouse is the way they are whether your the one with ADHD or not this book explains and gives the couples a base to work from

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  • D. Leander
  • 05-07-19

Very useful information

The content in this book is terrific for those with ADD to understand the impact their condition may have on others and for the partner of an ADD person to gain good insight into their thought processes and how to engage in a health way. Recommend!

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  • Sarah del Pino
  • 13-06-19

Amazing book

she really described my entire life dealing with a spouse with ADHD (,not yet diagnosed). I feel more comfortable now on how to approach him and how to handle different situations. I highly recommend it.

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  • Suki
  • 06-09-18

Great Book!

Great content!

As far as the narration is concerned, I felt it to be too fake and robotic; lacking personal connection. As a result, I found it to be difficult to stay tuned in at times as the translation fell flat.

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  • Lori Salerno
  • 05-11-17

Helped understand relationship better

This book opened my eyes to how ADD has contributed to some ongoing behavior patterns in our marriage and how to address them. Full of helpful tips on how to change habits and thinking approach to help get a grip on living in an ADD marriage.
The book is mainly geared towards a marriage where just one spouse has ADD. I would have loved if it had addressed a marriage where both partners have been diagnosed (my case).
Although I did get a lot out of the content of the book, I didn't care for the narrator. Her voice was a little too soft spoken with almost a fake, sexy-tone to it.

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