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Let's make a deal, you and me. Let's make promises to each other. I promise to tell you my story. The whole story. I'll tell you about a boy in love with Jesus, who, at the fateful onset of puberty, realized his sexual attractions were persistently and exclusively for other guys. I'll tell you how I lay on my bed in the middle of the night and whispered to myself the words I've whispered 1000 times since: "I'm gay." I'll show you the world through my eyes.

I'll tell you what it's like to belong nowhere. To know that much of my Christian family will forever consider me unnatural, dangerous, because of something that feels as involuntary as my eye color. And to know that much of the LGBTQ community that shares my experience as a sexual minority will disagree with the way I've chosen to interpret the call of Jesus, believing I've bought into a tragic, archaic ritual of self-hatred.

But I promise my story won't all be sadness and loneliness and struggle. I'll tell you good things, too, hopeful things, funny things, like the time I accidentally came out to my best friend during his bachelor party. I'll tell you what it felt like the first time someone looked me in the eyes and said, "You are not a mistake." I'll tell you that joy and sorrow are not opposites, that my life has never been more beautiful than when it was most brokenhearted.

If you'll listen, I promise I'll tell you everything, and you can decide for yourself what you want to believe about me.

©2017 Gregory Coles (P)2017 Blackstone Audio, Inc.

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  • salshortt
  • 30-10-20

To Understand - I’m grateful for this book

When I was 25 I found out a friend was gay. I peppered her with questions. She had been attracted to females and not males from her earliest memories, and she wasn’t happy about it. At all. The author approaches his sexuality the way I imagine I would if I had been born gay. This book is most appropriate for readers who are Christ-followers. Non-believers may judge the author since his reckoning of his sexual life clashes with mainstream culture. I would remind them to practice the tolerance they tend to preach.

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  • danielwead
  • 20-02-18

Much needed

This is a story that needs to be told. We are all on a journey. All in need of God's grace.

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  • Nathan
  • 14-02-21

The Book I Was Always Looking For

I have needed this book for years. I am so glad that I finally found a story of struggle with faith and sexuality that aligns with my own. I do not know what the future holds, but as someone who also loves to write, make music, and worship Christ, I am grateful to know that I am not alone on this unique road. This book is honest, beautifully written, and unapologetic in asking what it means to be gay and follow Jesus. It examines a present and future of Christian singleness as an LGBT person--one that society does not have any easy answers for, and one that people on both sides of the political aisle decry. If you go into this book with ideas such as "All people deserve sexual intimacy", then you will probably get frustrated before you reach the end. Mr. Coles grapples with this idea--among many others--and is honest that he's not sure his answer is 100% THE answer, but it is how he feels guided to live. As he asks in the beginning, let him tell you his story before you judge him. It is a story worthy of all the ears it can get.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 17-01-21

Thought provoking

I found this book to be helpful, interesting and thought provoking. The author is clearly committed to the task of unfolding for us and for himself the deep matters of his personal journey. There were helpful insights, images and phrasings.

At times though it felt a bit too ponderous and sometimes overstated. There was a carefulness though that I appreciated.

The narrator’s voice sounds a little old for someone who speaks primarily from the perspective of his twenties.

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  • Pooka
  • 25-05-20

A very necessary book

I love the author of this book. His truth and great love of Christ I hope will lift many. The beauty of his spirit and the connection he has with the Holy Spirit, our Comforter and intercessor, is inspiring. He shows the reality that all our living is really our out reach for our Father in Heaven and His son who loves each of us unconditionally. Thank you for setting your heart to words for so many of us that need to hear them in so many ways.

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  • Scott Shannon
  • 13-09-17

Not Terrible

If was nice to hear the authors perspective as a gay Christian growing up in the evangelical church. I do however have a more progressive view about homosexuality and the church then even he does, which surprised me. Worth the read to help move the conversation forward.

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  • Nathan LaCombe
  • 02-11-21

Amazing Journey

An amazing journey with pure honesty, humanity, and best of all, the Gospel. As a gay Christian wrestling with the exact issues the author has/is, this book made me laugh. cry, pray, and lean on my Savior.

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  • Shane Potter
  • 08-09-21

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This book gave me a sense of pride to be an LGBT Christian. If the straight Christian truly understood what we’ve had to endure, I believe real change could come. Stories like these need yo be told.

While I don’t share the authors conviction on celibacy, I applaud him for looking deeply into the Word for truth. I appreciate the Bible-centered nature of the narrative.

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  • Jim Ladiski
  • 24-08-21

Raw, yet elegant.

Had to push pause only because I needed sleep. (Darn sleep!) Otherwise, I couldn't put it down. I am amazed how the author allowed himself to be so vulnerable and personal yet make his story both accessible and relatable at the same time. As a married, straight, Christian trying his hardest to love others (all "others") better, I found this book to be incredibly insightful and love expanding!

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  • arkro
  • 20-08-21

Food for Thought

I struggle with many aspects of my faith, and sexuality and gender are often part of my hard times. However this book gave me a chance to think about a cohesive, if messy faith