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She's Not There

A Life in Two Genders

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She's Not There

By: Jennifer Finney Boylan, Deirdre Finney Boylan, Richard Russo
Narrated by: Jennifer Finney Boylan, Deirdre Finney Boylan
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About this listen

 Narrated by the author with two afterwords: one written and read by Deirdre Finney Boylan, and one written and read by Richard Russo


The provocative bestseller She’s Not There is the winning, utterly surprising story of a person changing genders. By turns hilarious and deeply moving, Jennifer Finney Boylan explores the territory that lies between men and women, examines changing friendships, and rejoices in the redeeming power of family. Told in Boylan’s fresh voice, She’s Not There is about a person bearing and finally revealing a complex secret. Through her clear eyes, She’s Not There provides a new window on the confounding process of accepting our true selves.


“Probably no book I’ve read in recent years has made me so question my basic assumptions about both the centrality and the permeability of gender, and made me recognize myself in a situation I’ve never known and have never faced . . . The universality of the astonishingly uncommon: that’s the trick of She’s Not There. And with laughs, too. What a good book.” —Anna Quindlen, from the Introduction to the Book-of-the-Month-Club edition. Biographies & Memoirs Parenting & Families Relationships Funny Witty

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Critic reviews

“She’s Not There, the Running with Scissors of sex-change stories, brings irreverence and a merrily outrageous sense of humor to this potentially serious business.” —Janet Maslin, New York Times


“Beautifully crafted, fearless, painfully honest, inspiring, and extremely witty. Jennifer Finney Boylan is an exquisite writer with a fascinating story, and this combination has resulted in one of the most remarkable, moving, and unforgettable memoirs in recent history.” —Augusten Burroughs, author of Running with Scissors and Dry
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Such an interesting and sensitive exploration into trans issues. Gentle, funny, poignant and generous with herself and, as expected, beautifully written.

A must read

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The author makes horrible voices, presumeably thinking that they are funny. They are not. They are annoying and pretensious which spoils the book for me. Also, lenghty superfluous and even more pretensious dialogs make the book quite uninvolving. Such a shame, because I expected memoir and wanted to learn about trans-sexual people. Gets better as it progresses though. Or maybe I just got used to annoying elements and initial disappointment they caused me.

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