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In this important sequel to Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, author Lindsay Gibson offers powerful tools to help you step back and protect yourself at the first sign of an emotional takeover, make sure your emotions and needs are respected, and break free from the coercive control of emotionally immature parents.

Growing up with emotionally immature (EI) parents can leave you feeling lonely and neglected. You may have trouble setting limits and expressing your feelings. And you may even be more susceptible to other emotionally immature people as you establish adult relationships. In addition, as your parents become older, they may still treat your emotions with mockery and contempt, be dismissive and discounting of your reality, and try to control and diminish your sense of emotional autonomy and freedom of thought. In short, EIs can be self-absorbed, inconsistent, and contradictory. So, how can you recover from their toxic behavior?

Drawing on the success of her popular self-help book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, author Lindsay Gibson offers yet another essential resource. With this follow-up guide, you’ll learn practical skills to help you recognize the signs of an EI, protect yourself against an emotional takeover, reconnect with your own emotions and needs, and gain emotional autonomy in all your relationships. This is a how-to book, with doable exercises and active tips and suggestions for what to say and do to increase emotional autonomy and self-awareness.

If you’re ready to stop putting your own needs last, clear the clutter of self-doubt, and move beyond the fear of judgment and punishment that’s been instilled in you by emotionally immature parents, this book will help you find the freedom to finally live your life your way.

©2019 Lindsay C. Gibson (P)2019 New Harbinger Publications

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This book was an absolute revelation for me

I cannot express how elucidating and valuable this book has been for me. It felt like someone watched my life and then wrote a book about it. So many things were put into words that I did not have words for before. I would absolutely recommend this book for anyone struggling with mental health/addiction recovery/self esteem etc. who may understand that their upbringing had some part to play but have not yet fully explored it.

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One of the best books I ever read!!

a lot of books of this type follow same patern of "tear it down and later build it up". By this I mean that roughly this kind of books has intro, later they state the problem and last chapter is solution. But as a person who had experienced a lot in life I find it hard to go through long chapters of "stating a problem" with no "daylight". In this book I felt they have used a bit different approach as to state a problem and give you a solution and explanation based on that. With every chapter I felt more and more empowered and free. Honestly my biggest and the most sincere THANK YOU to author of this book!

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Interesting

Hits a wide range of people, goes under your skin and make you see how vulnerable you are

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Very good in self discovery but not trauma.

This was actually similar to her excellent last book in the first half with practical advice in the second. However if you feel you have trauma from abuse then see a counsellor too.

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A good introduction to self improvement from emotionally immature parents

It turned out, I read this book after 50 (!!!) others .. it’s very helpful, like an introduction to possible childhood issues, however it’s very superficial. I’m not saying it’s bad or irrelevant, what I want to say - it must be 10 times bigger to really help and cover all issues, rather than quickly go through and give advices.

This book by its own won’t resolve issues. Why? I had to read 2-5 books on each topic , like: boundaries and limits, assertiveness, narcissistic and bordeline abuse, radical honesty, DBT, self esteem workbooks, critical voice and its affect, and more.

What I’m trying to say, the book is good, can provide a path for further work, allow to acknowledge the range of individual issues, and I wish I began with it, rather than finish the process)) but each topic, e.g. like critical voice- noticing, observing, journaling, analyzing and eliminating affects- needs weeks of works, I used three books for that. So, roughly 10 minutes , devoted to this topic in the book- will just touch the topic and give an idea 💡 there’s an issue, but be prepared to further explore the topic and for most people I would suggest working with a specialist to avoid overwhelming.

Like the second book of the author, words narcissism and bordelines weren’t pronounced, but it’s about them in anyway, these are affects of these pathologis in one way or another. That means, that affects on mental health of their victims shouldn’t be underestimated and one book won’t be able to resolve anything, and specialists will be needed in most cases

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Very helpful

I wish the PDFs and exercises mentioned were included to download as I couldn’t find them anywhere else other than by buying a hard copy of this very helpful and therapeutic audio book

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A must read/listen for anyone raised by EIPs

Really helpful and has enabled me to empathize with my parents for how they treated us growing up - it does not excuse their abusive and emotionally neglectful behaviour - but helps me to move on now I know it wasn't about me but their lack of ability to show up emotionally for their children.

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Excellent guide to self help

This book was well written, easy to read and clear. An essential read for anyone who believes themselves to have emotionally immature parents or other key EI people in their lives because it's a great start to realisation and getting your own sense of self back.

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Not for me

Some may find this content interesting however I found it boring, dull and quite negative.

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Fantastic book! very informative!

I really dig this book! the narration is clear, understandable and pleasant.
i recognize too well a lot of what this book is telling about.

I don't really remember if there are lot of tips on how to overcome...
However, these two books "adult children of emotionally immature parents" and "recovering from emotionally immature parents" is very validating and informative with its plenty examples from other peoples' experiences inwhich I recognize my own experiences all too well.

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  • 14-07-20

Asinine

If you are a 14-yr-old girl with no social skills and are excited at the prospect of a 7-hr relationship self-help article in a tabloid magazine, this book is for you.

Gibson's earlier book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, was poorly written, but touched on some very important topics and was quite insightful in my view. I'd hoped this book would expand on those topics. Instead, it obscures them with oversimplified drivel that no trained therapist would take seriously, like 'just snap out of your dissociation'. Read Adult Children of EIPs, but skip this one. Seems like she's just trying to squeeze a few more bucks out of people.

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  • Ann
  • 14-03-20

I wish I had this 40 years ago

This book gives you a clear understanding of how your childhood experiences shape your current decisions- who you let into your life and what behavior you accept.

It also helps you determine who has your best interests at heart and how to recognize people who are keeping you in their orbit for their own purposes.

Lastly, it gives you strategies for changing how you act and react so your decisions benefit your mental and emotional health.

It’s amazing how your schedule frees up when others realize they can’t use and abuse you anymore.

Highly recommended for people who frequently think, “There’s something wrong about this.” You are right.

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  • blackburn.emily
  • 28-01-20

Very insightful

Very insightful. Great examples of EIP’s behavior and how to take back your identity. Highly recommend!

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  • Adam
  • 29-05-21

Where has this book been all my life?!!

I’m blown away by how accurately this book describes my dad’s personality and behavior. I could never quite put my finger on all the things that have bothered me about him, but this book has given me a new understanding of the way he acts and specific things I can do to limit his effect on me. I don’t usually write reviews, but this book has been very empowering and I am excited to explore this new direction it has pointed me in. Thank you Lindsay Gibson!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 11-04-21

Helped me to understand and treat myself better

It opened my eyes on a lot of things that was okay for me but it’s not. A lot of helpful tips how to break the pattern that was built in your relationship with emotionally immature parents.
It helps to establish how you actually are rather than your parents told you.

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  • Lucy Mann
  • 22-11-20

Practical solutions. Awful narration.

This second book on emotionally immature parents is more solutions focused. I still recommend listening to the first book. It has been helping me deal with my mother. The narration is awful though. The ladies tone goes up and down that becomes distracting. You may want to purchase the physical book.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 24-05-20

Life-changing

Want to change your life, read this book. Especially if you've been raised by emotionally immature parents.

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  • Jennifer Poland
  • 28-01-20

Did not enjoy the narration

I think the information here is important but I was too distracted with the narrator’s cadence. Purchased the ebook and exchanged for a different title.

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  • Christine Cioletti
  • 06-04-21

I would recommend this book to absolutely everyone

This book gives me the confidence I need to maintain the boundaries I've developed to cope with my own EIP. The author has a way with words that resonated so strongly that at times I could actually feel my muscles relax in response. Even if you feel secure in your own dealing with EIPs in your life, this book is incredibly validating.

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  • Kelly
  • 22-03-21

Very helpful!

This book is filled with lots of examples of how to identify emotional immaturity as well as practical examples of how to respond. I will be rereading this!