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Summary

For 25 years, Positive Discipline has been the gold standard reference for grown-ups working with children. Now Jane Nelsen, distinguished psychologist, educator, and mother of seven, has written a revised and expanded edition.

The key to positive discipline is not punishment, she tells us, but mutual respect. Nelsen coaches parents and teachers to be both firm and kind, so that any child - from a three-year-old toddler to a rebellious teenager - can learn creative cooperation and self-discipline with no loss of dignity. Inside you'll discover how to:

  • Bridge communication gaps
  • Defuse power struggles
  • Avoid the dangers of praise
  • Enforce your message of love
  • Build on strengths, not weaknesses
  • Hold children accountable with their self-respect intact
  • Teach children not what to think but how to think
  • Win cooperation at home and at school
  • Meet the special challenge of teen misbehavior

©1981, 1987, 1996, 2006 Jane Nelsen (P)2007 Jane Nelsen

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"It is not easy to improve a classic book, but Jane Nelson has done so in this revised edition. Packed with updated examples that are clear and specific, Positive Discipline shows parents exactly how to focus on solutions while being kind and firm. If you want to enrich your relationship with your children, this is the book for you." (Sal Severe, author of How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too!)

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Interesting ideas, poor presentation

I highly recommend the first chapter of this book, hence I gave it 2 stars instead of 1. Afterwards, the book appears to have interesting ideas but it is written like a school manual. It is very hard to follow.

The performance of the author does not help either with listening to lists of bullet points. She is monotonous and does not succeed in gaining your attention. If you are not a very good reader then get someone else to narrate your book.

Too bad, I had high hopes for this book but it’s execution is really poor although the ideas are good.

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Brilliant and Inspiring

I can't wait to start applying her theory and enjoying a new family life. i can't recommed this book enough

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Very usefull!

I feel that the book was meant as a manual. Smth to study and read again to be able to fully understand and apply. I found it difficult to follow just on audio but a combition of audio and written helps you keep on track.
Well worth the effort.
Highly recommended!

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Excellent

I wish I'd read this before I started having children. Thankfully it's not too late to correct the mistakes I've made.

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This was read really slow!!

The concept of the book and the overall information were both awesome! The problem was that it was read really slowly!!! It almost took forever to complete it!!

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This is a book to keep for life!

It's not enough to read this book just for once! It really is an encyclopedia to learn about Positive Discipline, I recommend it for each and everyone who deals with children, whether you're a parent, a teacher, or a caregiver. This is sure a book to keep for life!

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A good book, but needs a second listen.

I enjoyed this and feel convinced by its principles. Better as non audio I reckon.

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Excellent book & examples

I love this booked. I’ve already shared it with five people. It’s got such simple yet helpful ideas & principles. I’ve already changed how I deal with misbehaviour in our home & im planning on introducing family meetings when our son is old enough. Thank you

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Great content horrible listen

I love the content but I struggled with the author. Her voice almost made me want to jump ship. please update the voice and use someone else. This audiobook was a struggle.

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  • chikitz
  • 14-06-19

Divorce mom

My daughter’s psychologist recommended this book after a sudden change in family structure. It has a lot of practical advice, my only complaint is that the Audiobook is divided into chapters differently than the book (Chapter 1 has 27 audiobook chapters) so it is hard to make reference between book and audiobook.

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  • 15-11-18

Terrible audio

The book itself is really great. The narrator is terrible! I have listened to over 70 audiobooks over a wide range of topics I drive an hour each way to work and I pass the time with audio books. However this narrator has a “wet” raspy voice. It is unbearable I ended up getting a hard copy version. This what happens when authors narrates there own books they ruin it.

I would rather pour ice cold water in my ears every day for a year than listen to this audiobook for one hour.

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  • Caitlin
  • 03-05-20

Good content, poor format

Please make chapter titles descriptive. I don’t own the book and “Chapter 65” etc. means nothing to me and makes it difficult to navigate and review content.

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  • Zariell
  • 27-04-20

Narration is horrible

The information is solid, but the narration is terrible. The voice gave me a headache and was not articulate or engaging. This, unfortunately, ruined the book for me. I will be buying the text.

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  • Katie Sammann
  • 04-09-19

Great content but narration needs work

helpful concepts for working with children. narrator's voice is difficult to listen to for 10 hours

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  • Val-Rose
  • 13-11-17

A must for parents

Jane Nelsen teaches anyone that would be a child caregiver how to better discipline while lifting the child up rather then tearing them down.

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  • T. Kobialka
  • 08-07-20

Chapters don't line up with the book.

I bought this because it is required reading for a college class I am in. The version provided me by the school is difficult for me to see and with COVID I haven't been able to go get glasses. I thought it might be better for me to listen. I went straight to "chapter 6" of the recordings since that is what chapter we are reviewing for class this week, but it was material from the beginning of the book. I tried and tried to make sense of the chapters in the audible version vs the book version, but it can't be done. There are 182 "chapters" in the audible version. There are 12 chapters in the book. It's making me bonkers, and purchasing the audible version was a complete waste of my money and now a waste of my time.

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  • 15-12-19

Exactly the wrong approach...

I had good intuition on how to raise my child. Then I bought this book and went horribly wrong with my child for short period. I saw the relationship between me and my child deteriorate. It wasn't until I read unconditional parenting that I was set free again.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 16-10-19

Fantastic

Excellent book with many ideias about encouraging children and parents. Very helpful and enjoyable to listen.

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