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Do you practise meditation because you want to feel good? Or to help you relax and be "happy"? Then frankly, according to Dzongsar Jamyang Khyentse, you are far better off having a full-body massage than trying to practise the Dharma. Genuine spiritual practice, not least the Ngndro preliminaries, will not bring the kind of comfort and ease most worldly people crave. Quite the opposite, in fact. But if your ultimate goal is enlightenment, Ngndro practice is a must, and Not for Happiness your perfect guide, as it contains everything an aspiring practitioner needs to get started, including advice about: developing "renunciation mind" discipline, meditation, and wisdom using your imagination in visualization practice why you need a guru.

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Shallow and sanctimonious

Eduardo Ballerini should be grabbed by the feet and shaken vigorously: hopefully this will dislodge his sanctimonious tone and it will drop off. As for the book itself, Dzongsar Jamyang Khyentse sounds opinionated. He tries hard to seem cool and branché, but comes across as stuck and shallow. All in all not a helpful read... Mind you, come to think of it... it did annoy me so it gave me the chance to practice patience!

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enlightening book on spiritual practice

Dzongsar Rinpoche's words deeply touched my heart. great book, I'd recommend to anyone seeking spiritual learning!

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Expected more after first book

I was having higher hopes on more practice details, especially after the excellent what makes you not a Buddhist.

I expected meditation guidance and instructions on the Buddhist steps, but this was so light weight, as I was hoping getting some teaching. Shame

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A beautiful and thorough introduction to Ngondro and so much more

I have the book too, listening to this book also has been such a wonderful refresher to the practice. Beautifully read.

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  • Pinkie 500
  • 09-04-21

Not Recommend

There are so many other books about Buddhism that are better. The views of mental illness are very harmful to those with depression, anxiety, etc.

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  • VL
  • 17-09-15

Exactly what was needed

Truly explains all the intricacies of "The Path" and Ngondro practice. I found it to be truly useful and plan to listen to it many, many, times. I also feel like it really puts it all together, although I now realize I must also buy the book itself as well, as the book has illustrations.

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  • Rignam
  • 14-09-21

A priceless gem for a vajrayana practitioner.

This is a more accessible version of Longchen nyingthik preliminary practices. A must read for those who have been initiated but still confused about what the vajrayana path actually entails.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 28-08-21

Ngondro delight

If you’re a practitioner of ngondro or Tibetan Buddhism, this is an invaluable guide to the nuances and complexities. Very honest. “Eventually you grow bored of your practice…” and then followed by advice, small ways to keep your accumulations and visualizations fresh. Full of unexpected grace, I found it answered many questions about ngondro that I hadn’t even put into words. Good narrator, the sound of each syllable rings like a bell.

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  • Rachel Marie
  • 23-08-21

Life changing! 🤩🤩🤩

I’m so grateful for the opportunity to have experienced this book. Thank you Buddha Realm 🙏

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  • MyHeartDog
  • 02-08-21

Wish there was a list of vocabulary

I am just learning about Buddhism and how to practice it, and love what I am hearing, but wish I could look up some of the vocabulary. I need to both hear it used understand and see it to remember.
I keep looking up
what I hear but can never find the terms or words.
But I am learning a lot and hope to find courage to go to a temple or learning center soon .

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  • Christophe G.
  • 29-03-21

narrators voice

The narrator's imploring voice is tiring, an unfortunate choice for an otherwise good book

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  • Ashley
  • 04-02-21

Traditional advice for the Western practitioner

A must-listen for the modern ngondro practitioner. Inspiring, practical, and relevant. May all be happy!

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  • G. Kaessner
  • 24-09-20

A must for even dedicated Buddhist Practitioners

I am a nyingma Buddhist Practitioner completing the Longchen Nyingthig Ngondro right now. Despite Dzongsar Khyentse Rinpoche’s lighthearted style in this book, this might be the most powerful teaching on Ngondro I have ever heard/read (and I have many teaching from authentic masters and have many books on Ngondro)
Why is it so powerful? DKR is not only fully trained and recognized as a true authentic teacher but he is immersed into the Western world so he understands the Western Mind and culture. There is no need to “translate” concepts he teaches.
I hope that those of you who listen are inspired to pursue the practice Buddhism for the sake of all beings and take on a Ngondro practice from one of the four lineages of Tibetan Buddhist.
Sarwa Mangalam.

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  • David F.
  • 15-09-20

Attachment

The purchasing of gold and jewels with the money given to one by their patrons is an act grounded in the defilement of attachment and is under no circumstance acceptable.
As Patrul Rinpoche taught, the using of gifts given to you by the people for your own gain only gains you bad Karma.
I am not yet a teacher. I Know many questions and have few solid answers. Perhaps none eh?
May we all know peace.