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Summary

In a revealing study of relationships where partners love themselves first, last, and always, Cynthia Zayn and Kevin Dibble help listeners determine whether their partner is over the line and has narcissistic personality disorder. The book draws on the authors' research and interviews with a variety of men and women who've been narcissized. Featuring compelling stories and scenarios, Narcissistic Lovers helps victims understand the pain brought on by their abusers, shows why these self-loathers can't change, and offers hope for healing from their "N-fliction".

©2007 Cynthia Zayn and Kevin Dibble, MS (P)2017 Tantor

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loved this book very empowering giving helpful information to heal from abusive relationships and become stronger in ones life

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  • Philly Gurl
  • 04-06-18

Amazingly Helpful

This book helped me tremendously. In understanding the behaviors of my narcissist soon to be ex-husband and gave me a sense of relief that it wasn't my fault. No matter what I did and believe I did everything to make this man happy but give my life, he would have left anyway. Just so glad I only suffered 6 months and not years. Thank you so much for writing this book. It was better therapy for me than going to counseling. Blessings

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  • E. Green
  • 21-06-18

A Godsend!! Just what I needed!

I married someone with narcissistic personality disorder. This book has described my wife perfectly. It gave me clarity, laser-like understanding and the confirmation that I needed. we are still married, but I am much more prepared and in a different place spiritually because of this book. some of the passages and the stories hit so close to home at. The author must have been watching us from afar LOL. the behaviors described or 1000% on point! I was just blown away, but better equipped, and understanding of why she acts the way that she does. and if it will be an end to this, it will be an end worth remembering because I now know why, how, and when these ridiculous behaviors occur. And I also know as I figured out earlier, that her behavior has nothing to do with me. My reactions to her behavior or text book behaviors for codependents, which I did not think I was. Rereading this chapter by chapter as we speak

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  • E38557
  • 30-03-18

And yet I learned more....

What did you love best about Narcissistic Lovers?

I loved that the dialogue was down to earth and the examples covered different relationships other than just a narcissistic lover --- this one had examples of lovers, co-workers, friends, parents, etc. All relationships were covered.

What other book might you compare Narcissistic Lovers to and why?

Not sure I could name a particular book that this one compares to on this topic.

Which scene was your favorite?

Chapter 17 (I think) when the narrator was relating a middle of the night phone call from a narcissistic lover to his girlfriend. When she was saying what he was "really saying"....It literally made me laugh out loud....but, I am on the "other" side of my relationship and can see this scene for exactly how it is....

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

YES....I had an "ah-ha" moment -which I again didn't think could happen to me anymore on this topic due to past research and experience.....BUT there is a part where she describes a lover to a sematic narcissist as an extension for his own masturbation. This may be hard to hear....but, if you have ever TRULY lived with one - - you would know that is the BEST way to describe most of these situations.....

Any additional comments?

This book kept my interest and the narrator did an AMAZING job~~~~

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  • karen mancera
  • 28-02-17

This helped me.

It was like the scenarios that were talked about I was reliving the past 5 years of my life. I thought I was going crazy, wanting to go back or hoping she'd miss me. Realizing what I really am to her and learning about NPD I feel stronger in keeping no contact.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 15-08-18

Very informative. <br />

This book opened my eyes to a lot of things and confirmed things I had already suspected. I recommend it 100%.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 08-08-18

Awesome

This book gave me strength. I'm now ready to move forward with MY life. Thanks

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  • Anonymous User
  • 30-07-18

Very Informative and Helpful

Easy listen, Relatable this book really help me with some things in my bad relationship

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  • Anonymous User
  • 02-12-17

Eye opener

I never write reviews but this book is definitely worthy. This is very familiar to me and also helped me understand NPD much better. I think everybody should listen to this to have a choice, to know how to identify NPD, then decide to deal with and support those who unknowingly suffer, or run far far away and as quickly as possible. Best wishes all!

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  • Judesf415native
  • 28-07-17

covers it all

if this is your first or last book on this disorder you will benefit from whstbit offers.I didn't learn muchbrvause its my last.but always nice to be valudated

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