Many of my readers and listeners write to me, and they often want to know how to improve or fix a relationship between a narcissistic personality disordered (NPD) man and a borderline personality disordered (BPD) woman. This dynamic duo tends to get together a lot more than people seem to realize. This duo is one of the most difficult relationships to maintain but can also be one of the most rewarding love connections realized by both sides of the duo.
When each partner learns the habits and needs of the other, they can seek to better fulfill each other's needs. This audiobook hopes to fill the gap for those listeners who are seeking to fine-tune their relationships or to improve an abusive or emotionally volatile relationship. We discuss NPD and BPD as they pertain to a heterosexual relationship, but the same rules apply if the roles are applied to a homosexual relationship.
We hope to give new light to those who are choosing to stay in the relationship but want better ways to interact with their partner to make the relationship work. It is no surprise that this volatile couple needs more tools to deal with the complications of their relationship and to avoid a breakup or an abusive situation.
The narcissist borderline couple tends to form because each person is attracted to the other based on his or her primitive childhood injury. Though both people grew up in different environments, each experienced some level of emotional and developmental trauma that draws them together. The bonding grows love while at the same time sometimes causing a trauma bonding to occur between the couple in the midst of toxic circumstances. Both sides of the couple are emotionally underdeveloped to some degree, and the high conflict in their relationship generally exposes this underdevelopment further.
Before we can analyze these two individuals, it is important that we discuss the DSM criteria for both disorders fully. Both people should know where their strengths and weaknesses rely in their disorders in order to make intelligent decisions about their own needs and the needs of their partner.
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- Dina Wise
You have hit the nail on the head with your perfect description describing the dynamics of this relationship!!!
This review deserved the highest rating possible!!! I was listening to it while I slipped into dozing and I woke up hearing the description of the borderline and the narcissistic relationship and I couldn’t believe my ears. You hit the nail EXACTLY on the head when you described every single dynamic between my X and I. ! I am the borderline and you described the motive and temperament of each of us and our dance perfectly!!!! It is MIND-CHILLING and HORRIFICALLY ACCURATE!!!! WOW!!! Thank you J.B. Snow!!!!
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