Many of my readers come to me with lengthy stories of narcissistic abuse that they have endured. They are at a loss as to how the person they care about seems to have two distinct personalities. These individuals are seemingly dealing with a real-life Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, and they are usually at a loss as to how to relate to them or how to cope with their abuse.
There is clearly an epidemic of narcissism - a contagion of sorts - that is occurring across the globe. Narcissism is generally handed down from one generation to the next. It is said that nearly one in four people has narcissistic tendencies. It is likely that the number of narcissists will only continue to increase.
Many people wonder why or how the narcissist seems to have two distinct personalities. They cut their partner down, and then they retreat back to them with apologies and gifts once they realize that they cannot easily replace them. They have circular conversations, as if they are unaware of things they have said and promises they have made previously. They tell lies about their whereabouts.
It is curious whether or not these behaviors of the narcissist are a part of their conscious awareness. It appears as though the narcissist is only vaguely aware between his "good" side and his "bad" side what truly goes on in his personality and in his brain. He stuffs his misbehaving side down and only displays the ideal image that he has valued since childhood. He knows that this "good" side will provide him acceptance, admiration, etc. He knows that his "bad" side will be punished, rejected, and feared.
Children who are abused or in hostile environments as babies and toddlers can start to show signs of disassociation. They "zone out" so that they do not have to hear the fighting and warring that is going on between the parents. They create their own imaginative world.
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Very good information and well read. I will be listening to this again for sure.
- tarafarah7: Tara Brown
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This 20min audiobook, written by J.B. Snow really made me sit and reflect on moments, people, and events throughout my life. I actually learned quite a bit in the short time I listened. Although I have heard of the word narcissist, it wasn't really until this audiobook that I actually learned the true meaning behind it. I was surprised to hear the statistics of how many people possess these traits. I'm sure there is so much more to learn, but this is a good start for me. I feel like I have been in relationships with guys who act this way. Now, I know I'm not perfect, but I do know that I do not act in narcissistic ways. This book opened my eyes to the types of relationships I am apparently drawn toward. I think it is time I learn some things about myself and why I choose invite individuals into my life who act in these ways! :-)
The narration was outstanding. Mike Norgaard really kept my interest throughout. He spoke in a way that was informative and direct. He didn't sound unsure about the information he was presenting, and he spoke clearly so that the listener was able to fully understand what he was saying.
Even though this audiobook was only ~20min long, I feel that it was packed with valuable information. Sure, I could have looked up the word narcissist, and searched on Google for 2 hours visiting various sites to get a grasp on the same information, but I didn't have to because it was all there for me, already organized and ready to present. It saved me time and got me motivated to take some steps to make some changes in the things I do and the people I in which I interact. At the end of the audiobook, there is a list of other books and topics to explore if I choose to do so. I'm glad I found this book. At such a small price, it was definitely worth it. I recommend it as a starting point to others who wish to learn more about this topic.
Thank you for reading my review. I hope it was helpful. :-)