Mixed Up
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Narrated by:
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Tineka Smith
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Alex Court
About this listen
Tineka Smith always knew that growing up Black in America meant certain restrictions. Don’t talk back to white people, expect to be stopped by the police, always be on your guard. So, when she moved to the UK - and fell in love with Alex Court, a white man - she wondered if things might be different.
When Alex proposed to Tineka, it was the easiest decision in the world. What he didn’t anticipate was the reaction - sometimes subtle, sometimes overt - from friends and strangers alike. Nor did he expect to have to think about Tineka’s race, and his own white privilege, every single day.
Tineka has always felt the burden of calling out and educating people, only now she has to teach her new husband at the same time - asking him to see, hear and think with a new perspective about the things he had never noticed before.
But what does this mean for Tineka and Alex’s relationship? With anecdotes, analysis and honest conversations, Mixed Up has the pair attempting to navigate their new and challenging world, confronting race and relationships in the 21st century head on.
©2020 Tineka Smith, Alex Court (P)2020 Audible, LtdCritic reviews
"A must read book that will change the way we see mixed race couples and make us question our own entrenched beliefs." (Melissa Fleming, award-winning author of A Hope More Powerful than the Sea)
Hidden truths.
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I wish I had your book/ audible to share with my partner years ago, actually even just a year ago. We might not be separating now.
Tineka, the issues you raise in conversation with Alex are mirror like to mine with my partner. Except, where your husband Alex stayed in the room to listen, process and learn from your experiences and reactions, my partner left the room - sometimes literally. To hear you both talk so openly and stay present for and with each other was inspiring. The frustrations and resentments that can fester when the reality (and struggles) of how two different lived experiences do coexist and do impact a biracial couple and their family's lives is a real danger if left unchecked or dismissed. Alex, you are an example of what can happen when a white person/ ally/ partner/ loved one walks through the door of defensiveness to truly listen, empathise, and talk about the experiences their black loved ones (person/ ally/ partner) go through daily. Tineka, your patience, trust and willingness to share the insidious hurts and deepest cuts we experience from society is transcendent. I cried for the pain I know you've experienced and with joy because finally, someone else has eloquently described the emotions and feelings that I have felt alone in expressing to my partner.
It does take patience and love of the highest form to share these embedded vulnerabilities with your loved ones, let alone the world. And it takes patience, love and humbleness to listen and accept what you do not see, understand or experience to be a Truth. Positive vibes and bravo to you both.
Biracial Excellence - thank you
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Well worth considering
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Excellently narrated by both authors, a personal narrative which allows listeners to understand the broader issues and how to make positive changes.
Highly recommended
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loved it !
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