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Messy Grace

How a Pastor with Gay Parents Learned to Love Others Without Sacrificing Conviction
Narrated by: Caleb Kaltenbach
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Caleb Kalenbach is the Lead Pastor at Discovery Church in Simi Valley, CA. Raised in the LGBT community, he was exposed to how some Christians treated the LGBT community, and grew to hate Christians. In high school, he joined a Bible study to disprove the Bible, but ended up following Jesus instead. Later, his parents followed Jesus, too. This is the subject of his first book, Messy Grace - holding on to the truth of God's Word while being filled with grace.

Caleb is a graduate of Ozark Christian College, Talbot School of Theology (Biola University), and is finishing his doctorate at Dallas Theological Seminary. He speaks widely on the subjects of reconciliation, faith, diversity, and grace/truth. Caleb and his wife, Amy, reside in Southern California with their two kids.

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Great book

Loved this book. Well written and well read. Definitely recommending to others too. 5 stsrs

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  • Laura Evans
  • 04-11-16

For such a time as this

I am so grateful to Caleb for writing this book. I have been wrestling with how to make sense of these issues and this book has been a tremendous help to me. It has dispelled my fearfulness of what I didn't understand, and has encouraged within me a God-given love for the precious souls who identify as LGBTQ. Thank you Pastor Kaltenbach!

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  • Caprice
  • 17-08-16

A desperately needed message

For anyone struggling with the Christian /LGBT issue, this is a must-read. The author has lived in both worlds and so brings a unique, loving, and honest perspective teaching us how to live in the tension of grace and truth.

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  • Anony
  • 04-05-16

A book on how Christians can be more like Christ

Being a Christian and believing homosexuality is a sin doesn't mean we must shun the LGBT. This book offers real insight into how to respect those who do identify as LGBT, speak to them with both love and truth, and to accept the person, not the sin.
I think every Christian needs to read/listen to this book, even if they don't 100% agree with the author 100% of the time.

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  • S. Streiff-process
  • 19-07-16

Helpful-ish

My church recently made a public stand about homosexuality. The Lead Pastor was asked to resign as he held beliefs that were more accepting in the way that he interpreted the Bible. This book was recommended to me to help me reconcile biblical truth with my desire to love other people radically. There are many insightful perspectives discussed in this book. It is worth the time spent to read it. It did not help me to clarify all of my questions on this issue as related to Christianity, but it has perhaps given me a bit more insight.

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  • K. Jones
  • 16-04-16

Identity in Christ

"Some will switch their primary identity from their same sex attractions to a disciple of Christ."

That line spoke to me. This book does a good job of articulating what can be extremely disheartening in the Church today with how it by and large cannot communicate with people who are not like them. I will never know the struggle of being judged by my appearance or how I talk because those do not give me away as gay, but I do know how it feels to be judged by my sexual orientation and nothing else.

As Caleb says, you won't agree with everything he says, but he's not telling you what to think. He's sharing his story as well as his convictions of what he reads in the Bible that praises healthy sexual expression, and condemns sexual expression that does not seem to honor God.

I'm still wrestling with what it means to be a "Gay Christian", and all the questions that come with that identity. I am thankful that my primary identity is as a disciple/child of God, and I pray He uses my life to bring all sorts of people together, all for the glory of the LORD.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 18-03-20

incredible

loved reading this book.
surprisingly an insightful way to connect to God and other people.

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  • Natalie
  • 07-03-20

Great Example of Discipleship

I enjoyed listening to this book and realized this is applicable to any sign one may struggle with. I learned a lot about how to treat those who do not have the same beliefs as I. I am challenged to be more graceful to others and the importance of being in relationship with others.

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  • A. Michals
  • 02-03-20

highly recommended

loved it and will likely read it again, great for anyone on either side of the issue

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  • Chris Wilder
  • 21-02-20

Interesting Read

I'm left with one question. Should a Christian consider a person who is dressing and looking like a person of the opposite sex as a person of the opposite sex or do we see and treat them the way God determined that person in the womb. Who's right? God or man?

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  • Bradley Clay
  • 25-12-19

Messy indeed

As someone who loves people in the gay community, but is also deeply committed to the word of God, I was just a little bit concerned with the first few chapters, which seem to lean one way, but by the end of the book I was thoroughly convinced that I have been looking at these people in the wrong way, according to Scripture. It helped me harmonize my conflicted feelings and theology. I highly recommend this book which is not only scripturally based, but provides deep personal insights for those of us who are not gay and for those who are. Grateful for the recommendation from a friend.