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Love and Respect

The Love She Most Desires; the Respect He Desperately Needs
Narrated by: Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
Length: 8 hrs and 47 mins
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Summary

A New York Times best-selling marriage book making a difference! More than one million copies sold!

Based on over three decades of counseling, as well as scientific and biblical research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and his wife, Sarah, have already taken the Love & Respect message across America and are changing the way couples talk to, think about, and treat each other. What do you want for your marriage? Want some peace? Want to feel close? Want to feel valued? Want to experience marriage the way God intended? Then why not try some Love and Respect.

A wife has one driving need--to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need--to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love & Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily, and biblically.

What readers say about Love & Respect

  • “I’ve been married 35 years and have not heard this taught.”
  • “This is the key that I have been missing.”
  • “You connected all the dots for me.”
  • “As a counselor, I have never been so excited about any material.”
  • “You’re on to something huge here.”

Partner Love & Respect with the Love & Respect Workbook for Couples, Individuals, and Groups for an added experience. Love & Respect is also available in Spanish, Amor y Respeto.

©2015 Emerson Eggerichs (P)2015 Thomas Nelson

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Not for me

I really didn’t like this. The outlook is super traditional and nothing about it clicked with me. I don’t think people fall into these convenient blue and pink glasses for men and women as the author suggests. I did not find the thought process helpful.

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A phenomenal read! Thank you Emnerson

Words cannot explain the enlightenment and the marriage tools I now feel I have acquired after listening to this audiobook. Emnerson paints a perfectly balanced look at both sides of Love and Respect. He uses scripture appropriately and practically to get his message across in a way that adds value to God's word as well as, to men and women alike. It's incredibly empowering to now know to fix issues, even when it may not be easy. I love this book and will return to it again and again!

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Changed my Life!!!

Loved it! Every moment spent listening to this book. Totally transformed my view of marriage, my wife and my relationship with God especially as it pertains marriage.

Can't wait to recommend Love and Respect to all my friends.

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Excellent material about men and women

Whilst drawn heavily from the bible, the material expresses the true about men and women. Even if you are not a Christian, the material is so good as it speaks the truth about a marriage relationship and how a man and a woman can get everything they want from it and have a truly wonderful marriage. The principles have not changed in 2000 years.

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Really worth reading even if your not Christian

I shared this book with several friends. The book gives a good indication of why so many marriages drift apart. I’ve started using some of the suggestions in the book and my relationship has already seen changes. I really wanted more love and by showing respect I am filled with the love I so wanted.

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“Cha-ching!”

On the money! Married for going on 18 years now and I’ve never come across material that comes this close to the balanced teaching and highest standards that I believe God Himself etched on me about what His heart & mind about marriage is, right from my youth!!

It offers hope untarnished on a platter of gold, and I’ve scooped it all up, with cupped arms that are filled & profusely overflowing!!!

Great book based on the eternal truth about marriage, practical in every way - a treasure worth finding for absolutely every married couple and those looking forward to it.

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outstanding

An alternative take on marriage and the differences between the male and female characters. A good read for couples in marriage or heading in that direction.

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A marriage book with a difference

Amazing book a marriage book with a difference. l recommend it to everynie out there.

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non-religious beware

This book was clearly written for religious Christians. A shame since the message is universal.

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Truly awesome

I have learnt a lot from this book and highly recommend it to anyone who values God's intentions on marriage

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  • Helpful Reviewer
  • 23-06-17

Helpful. Glad I bought it. Some reservations.

Overall I'm glad I bought this book. My wife and I have a great marriage and almost never fight or get into tiffs, so I was reluctant to buy because most marriage books are slanted toward those considering divorce.

Overall I felt this was true from a male perspective and it was very refreshing to read a marriage book that didn't make all guys out to be horrible sinning savage beasts.

However, there were two things I think could be improved.

First, I think it maybe went a bit too far in the way it explained how the woman should respect the man's decisions for the family. My wife felt afraid to even voice her opinion anymore until I told her to just stop being so respectful and be herself like she usually is. She is always very good to me so I think this book made her feel like she wasn't doing a good job and needed to change something.

Second, I wish there were far more specific ideas of things I could do to show love for my wife. I get the concept and I tell my wife I love her all the time. Just wish there were lots of creative ideas in this book to get me thinking.

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  • Dave T.
  • 29-08-16

A contesting for a healthy marriage

The simplicity of this book will leave you dumbfounded as to why this BASIC truth is not being taught from every pulpit in the country. I will continue to reread this book and pass it down to my children when they come of age

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  • EpicAngie
  • 25-09-19

Had to return

I couldn’t even listen to half an hour of this book, let alone torture myself for 8 more hours. He’s very condescending and little laughing and smirks at his wife’s feelings. No thank you!

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  • Pamela J.
  • 23-01-17

Invaluable Tools - Heaavy on Religion

What did you like best about this story?

Everything that people are saying about the book is true. Love Emerson's voice, love the advice, can't wait to put it into use. In fact I have started following the advice and already see some change. Now I just need my boyfriend to read the book and hopefully see some major improvements in our relationship.

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I am not a religious person, in fact I do not believe in God. When the book first started, I rolled my eyes every time he mentioned the Bible (he quotes scripture throughout). I guess I did not realize he is a pastor. I had to reframe my thinking to get through the book, so when he mentioned the Bible I thought, "The book of morals, the book of morals!" Because that's what the Bible is, essentially, a guide to the right (righteous)/moral way to live. If you are also non-religious, I suggest skipping the last hour (Audible chapters 28-30, book chapter 23). These chapters are simply telling you, the listener, to follow his guide because the Lord commands you based on his interpretation of the Bible. This does not help me.

Otherwise, the book was great. If you are an ultra FEMINIST, you must listen with a very open mind and take from it what you'd like. I am a feminist myself, but do believe that men and woman are built differently and have very different needs. This book definitely opened my eyes to how a man thinks. He described how I think and how my boyfriend thinks to a T. Religious, feminist, or not, I think everyone should hear his message.

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  • nicole
  • 07-01-17

This book is a marriage saver!

We are not strictly Christian, but the overall message still worked miracles for us. Don't let the religious nature of the book turn you off if you are not a follower. If you are really ready to do anything to save your marriage, read this book.

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  • Elica
  • 02-03-16

The best relashionship book ever!!

I have always thought about what Paul wrote about love &I respect, but never realm understood why my husband so needs my respect. While I felt misunderstood and unloved. I've read and shared with my husband. I am respecting him and seeing how he is respected and respectful. Thanks.

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  • Megan Twomey
  • 09-04-19

Garbage

He laughs at his wife’s needs and desires. He is a chauvinist. Perhaps 30 years of studying the Bible was not enough. One verse is not everything.

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  • Sarah Baker
  • 11-01-19

Not for you if you are a team in your marriage!

This book was recommended to me by my father. It was annoying to read and even more offensive to listen to! It bases its entire logic in the idea that women only desire to be loved and men only desire to be respected. His condescending tone toward women, which is even more apparent listening to him read the book, and his assumption that men just can’t help their behavior is ludicrous! I am a stay at home mother and my husband is the provider but we are STILL very much partners and both desire to be BOTH LOVED AND RESPECTED! I would not recommend this book.

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  • JMS Montalvo
  • 31-07-17

Good content but definitely biased & outdated POV

Would you say that listening to this book was time well-spent? Why or why not?

While the some content was very good and many of the stories relatable, the slant in favor of the man was very difficult to overcome. As a woman who was severely physically and mentally abused, many times with the abuse being accompanied with quotes from scripture to support it, the book seemed to give men a preferred level of excuse for their behavior. Domestic violence is an epidemic and one could see how a man would use this book to further support their behavior.

If this book were a movie would you go see it?

No

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  • Bonnie
  • 28-02-17

mrlove

great! wonderful tool to grow in a marriage Awesome book no more crazy cycle man

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