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Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life

The Chump Lady's Survival Guide
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Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity - but saving your sanity.

When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters - their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Full of solid advice that champions self-respect, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more.

Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.

©2016 Tracy Schorn (P)2017 Tantor

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Saved my sanity!

A must read for anyone in or following a narcissistic or unhealthy relationship, or anyone wanting to support those who are!

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  • Madeline Hutton
  • 28-04-18

Marvelous

Soul saving. It cuts right through all the calamity and bullshit to the heart of the matter - your life is worth it, and their choices are not yours to deal with & suffer under. You deserve your own life. And this audiobook is a relentless voice in your ear of tough love for guiding you to making it out alive - and well.

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  • Shauna
  • 17-06-18

Best Book on Infidelity

I wish I had this book over a year ago. Absolutely loved the book. Straight forward and honest. Plus there is humor to make you laugh when there is not a lot to laugh about. I have already recommended and will continue recommending.

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  • Krista A Luoto
  • 24-09-17

this book saved my life!

This book is a must read for any person facing infidelity. I am eternally grateful to Tracy Schorn for clearly and thoroughly relating her insights and experiences. She has helped me move forward confidently with recreating my life.

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  • Kress
  • 21-05-18

Wake up call

Great wake up call! The straight forward hard truth in this book and the narrators presentation of it is profound and eye opening. A true heart to heart.

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  • LCLUVABLE
  • 04-08-19

To the point

Loved this book, if I forget or try to let my mind tell me something different . I listen to it again. She keeps it real. ( Reality check) . Soothes my soul!!

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  • Dr. Caroline Madden
  • 07-06-19

If you have had multiple D-Days BUY this book now

I don't think that all cheaters are pathological narcissists as presented in this book. I do believe that good people make poor choices. For example, a husband with kids in a sexless marriage. He could honestly believe that getting his needs met with out breaking up the family is being a good person. Sometimes men don't even think their wives like them anymore-they just like the paycheck and the lifestyle.

However multiple D days are for chumps. If your partner cheats, gets caught, sees the pain s/he has caused you then does it again? You are then married to a narcissist. It will not get better you will just be more hurt. You need to go. buy this book NOW. You need to stop being a chump and move on right away.

I don't agree with telling the kids. Research shows that this is damaging to the kids. Kids need both parents in their lives. Other than that the rest of the advice is spot on and effective.

She has a great blog/wesbite/forum as well. Join those and get the support you need because this hurts!!


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  • Anonymous User
  • 07-09-18

A must if you were cheated on!

This book really helped me understand what I was dealing with understanding my wife’s affair. I am on the road to recovery now thanks to this book!

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  • MsNadira
  • 11-12-17

Amazing

Loved it! It was perfect helped me completely! I am no longer confused about what I am going to do! Thank you so much writing and sharing this book with us!

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  • Marcela Berry
  • 16-08-19

Great book

I think this is a good book several things she talked about were in the dot about cheaters personalities..
The book helps you value yourself and stop the vicious cycle.. I enjoyed it if I can say that despite the circumstances :)

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  • Laurie B.
  • 13-08-19

Great content, poor narration

I loved the book. Wish I'd "read" it a year ago when I found out my husband had continued his affair for months after he'd been found out and I thought it was over. Though we're already separated, I haven't filled for divorce and waiting so long makes the leaving harder now. But Chump Lady hit the nail on the head when describing what cheaters say and do. She perfectly described my cheating husband and also validated my feelings. I did not care for the narration of the book but the content was excellent.

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