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Penguin presents the audiobook edition of It's Not Always Depression by Hilary Jacobs Hendel, read by Cassandra Campbell. Includes a PDF of reference materials.

We were all taught that our thoughts affect our emotions, but in truth it is largely the other way around: we have to experience our emotions to truly understand our thoughts and our full selves. This is why we should think not only about cognitive behavioural therapy or medication but also about our emotions when addressing psychological suffering.

In It's Not Always Depression, pioneering psychotherapist Hilary Jacobs Hendel reveals the most effective techniques for putting us back in touch with the emotions we too often deny - methods which can be used by anyone, any time, anywhere. Drawing on stories from her own practice, she sheds light on the core emotions (such as joy, sadness and fear), defences (anything we do to avoid feeling) and inhibitory emotions (anxiety, shame and guilt) and how understanding their interaction can help us return to mental well-being.

This is the basis of accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy: it accelerates healing through having an emotional experience in the here and now. It allows you to reacquaint yourself with your feelings, to recover a more authentic self and to be more calm, curious and connected.

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©2018 Hilary Jacobs Hendel (P)2018 Penguin Books Ltd

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  • JG
  • 28-11-19

Heavy on the psychotherapy...

Overall I found the information interesting and was able to apply the information to partially help manage personal anxieties. However I found a lot of the case studies based on deep seated childhood trauma and people who spent years in therapy - a bit harder to relate to when trying to apply the "method". I also found some of it a bit too heavy on old school psychotherapy, and how various childhood incidents can apparently ruin you for life. I came out of the book feeling more worried about ruining my children's life than dealing with my own pre-existing anxieties.

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I want to return this but audible returns email

I find it much harder to judge audio-books than print. I found this impossible to listen to without screaming at it. I find it too preachy, perhaps because it is spoken and doesn't allow you to engage at your pace and your level as a book does. Is it really so important to force down people's throats (ears) yet another theory which can alienate? If the approach and narration had prioritised people/common humanity before theory, my experience might have been different; I might otherwise have found it bearable as the topic is of interest. "It's not always depression" isn't really a great title if we accept there are different ways of experiencing, viewing and/or explaining "it ".

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Amazing

This book is fantastic! I didn’t want it to end. Professional or not you’ll reap the benefits x

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The beginnings of a personal transformation.

What can I say? I've suffered from anxiety (and the ripple-out effects of that) all of my life. It's caused me to act out in my personal and professional life, saying and doing things out of panic and fear, and then regretting it. I've never known how to manage my anxiety or emotions fully, and it's caused me all sorts of pain. This audiobook has given me some tools to start tackling that, and I can already see it working. It's incredibly well written and produced, and I was engaged the whole way through. Beyond that, the simple tools that are offered are genuinely useful. I'm already more aware of what I'm feeling in the moment, more able to label and acknowledge my emotions, and move forward without acting from a place of anger or fear. I can now see that almost all of my anxiety is, at its' core, a fear of failure or being overwhelmed - these are not words I would have used before listening to this audiobook, but through this I can now get to the core of my emotions, calm myself down, and act and speak in a considered manner. I'm excited to listen to it again, and over the coming years see the compounding effect of having such a transformational skillset in my life. So simple, but so powerful. Thank you.

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Best general psychotherapy book

This is probably the best, most practical and accessible general psychotherapy book I have ever read and the perfect starting point for anyone concerned about mental health issues.

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Best "How to" book on overcoming emotional unrest

This is the best book I've read on how to overcome depression. It contains play by play examples of how to overcome specific emotional disturbances as well as a simple methodology that can be applied to any issue. Would recommend to anyone with depression.

If you are looking for a book that explains "What emotions work and why ALL emotions are needed" then "The language of emotions" by Karla McLaren should be read before this one.

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powerful examples of counselling

If you want to be a counsellor, this book will help you understand emotions and work with them. Essential for the experiential therapist. An easy listen.

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Disappointing

Nothing groundbreaking in this. Like a painful CBT session. Lots of lists, (really) monotonous delivery, which speaks to victim mentality, patronising in tone, heard it all before.
So much more out there in this field that is much better. I don't like rating badly, but honestly if you are depressed, don't waste your money.

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Very helpful to improve you emotional coping

I liked this book a lot; well written, well-read, and a good way to work through emotions. Re-read worthy!!

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Now I have hope

After listening to this book I felt very identified, maybe I don’t have depression or maybe my depression has a cure.

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  • maikenstene
  • 27-11-18

Potential Life Changer

Great book that explains what lies beneath our emo chaos! Extremely useful and wish everyone would read it. Thank you!!