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Bloomsbury presents In Control by Jane Monckton-Smith, read by Gabrielle Glaister.

A woman is killed by her partner or ex-partner every four days in the UK. 

Domestic homicide is a pandemic so pervasive that the soaring figures cause weary resignation rather than alarm. For 30 years, Professor Jane Monckton-Smith has been fighting to change this. A former police officer and internationally renowned professor of public protection, she lectures on sexualised and fatal violence; works with families bereaved through homicide; and trains police and other professionals on how to best handle cases involving coercive control, domestic abuse and stalking. 

Killers do not snap and lose control.

Her groundbreaking research led to the creation of the eight-stage homicide timeline, laying out identifiable stages in which coercive relationships can escalate to murder and revolutionising our understanding of them. 

There are signs, if you know how to see them.

In this book, Monckton-Smith shares a glimpse into a world of toxic masculinity and coercive control, one in which the tools are shame and fear, helped along by a media and justice system who are far from shedding sexist notions of men and women's roles in society. 

Drawing on disciplines including psychology, sociology and law, she talks to victims, their families and killers, putting together pieces to the puzzle of how these relationships can end in murder and bringing to light the reasons why - for so many of us - there is no such thing as the safety of one's own home.

©2021 Jane Monckton-Smith (P)2021 Bloomsbury Publishing Plc

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Life changing

As a police officer who works in this area this book has revolutionized my understanding of control and abuse with tangible changes I will take away. I wish I had known this 15 years ago but feel excited and empowered to make a difference now with what I have learnt. My colleagues are now ploughing through this as well and they all agree that a tidal wave of change is coming based on our understanding of control from this work.

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Essential

I'm a trainee counsellor, I think this book should be added to our reading list.

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In Control

This book need to be read by everyone, police, children services, health and education services....nobody just loses their control there are always signs to see before the act of murder....thank you Jane for the women who words were never heard. X

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It's a book that could save your life

Having been a victim of stalking I found this book fascinating and absolutely chilling. There are 8 stages a pattern, which is repeated. Using this the author debunks the myths of 'crimes of passion' and also looks at how the victim in these cases is often unheard and somehow deserved their treatment. It's a book that could save your life.

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A compelling examination of Domestic Abuse

This ought to be mandatory reading for every practitioner in the criminal justice system. Professor Jane Monkton Smith isnt simply an academic it's very clear that she has a deep understanding of the system and its flaws. I have given a copy of this book to my daughter to read.

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Vital

The most important book I've heard/read in a long time. A clear and forensic reveal of coercive control and abuse.

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I truly believe this book could save numerous lives.

I spend part of my working days travelling to and from visits as a Safeguarding Social Worker; for me listening to audiobooks has become a source of education and escapism.

In Control: Dangerous Relationships and How They End in Murder by Jane Monckton-Smith is a book I saw recommended by Rachel Court (nee Williams), herself a survivor of 18 years of severe domestic abuse, which ended in 2011 when her abuser shot her with a sawn off shot gun before hanging himself.

In her book Jane discusses the eight stages of domestic homicide which range from the killer having a history of stalking or domestic abuse through to the act of murder.

It is very well researched and written with many examples of perpetrators both male and female.

I truly believe this book could save numerous lives.

I will now buy a hard copy of the book to reread and use as reference; I would absolutely highly recommend anyone working with cases of domestic abuse, coercive behaviour and homicide to read/listen to this book and/or buy a copy for someone you care about.

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Everyone needs to read this book

Everyone, whether a professional working in the field or not needs to read this book. the information is important to be understood in order to protect ourselves our families and the people we care about. You would be hard pushed to find someone that has not been impacted by Domestic Violence even in some small way. It is insidious and damaging and all of us as a collective are responsible for ensuring we are doing our part in preventing it.

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Fascinating

A great way to learn about such a serious topic and to be on the look out for such behaviour

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A MUST READ

This is an amazing book in which Jane Monckton Smith details the stages of coersive control and domestic abuse and is the new textbook on abusive relationships. She's ex-police with years of experience and expertise she explains every stage in these relationships clearly and concisely.
It's a proper must-read.

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