Listen free for 30 days

Listen with offer

  • Hurts So Good

  • The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose
  • By: Leigh Cowart
  • Narrated by: Leigh Cowart
  • Length: 11 hrs and 28 mins
  • 4.1 out of 5 stars (12 ratings)
Offer ends May 1st, 2024 11:59PM GMT. Terms and conditions apply.
£7.99/month after 3 months. Renews automatically.
Pick 1 audiobook a month from our unmatched collection - including bestsellers and new releases.
Listen all you want to thousands of included audiobooks, Originals, celeb exclusives, and podcasts.
Access exclusive sales and deals.
£7.99/month after 30 days. Renews automatically. See here for eligibility.
Pick 1 audiobook a month from our unmatched collection - including bestsellers and new releases.
Listen all you want to thousands of included audiobooks, Originals, celeb exclusives, and podcasts.
Access exclusive sales and deals.
Hurts So Good cover art

Hurts So Good

By: Leigh Cowart
Narrated by: Leigh Cowart
Get this deal Try for £0.00

Pay £99p/month. After 3 months pay £7.99/month. Renews automatically. See terms for eligibility.

£7.99/month after 30 days. Renews automatically. See here for eligibility.

Buy Now for £12.99

Buy Now for £12.99

Pay using card ending in
By completing your purchase, you agree to Audible's Conditions of Use and authorise Audible to charge your designated card or any other card on file. Please see our Privacy Notice, Cookies Notice and Interest-based Ads Notice.

Listeners also enjoyed...

Existential Kink cover art
Polywise cover art
Disfigured cover art
Love's Executioner cover art
Sex cover art
Sex with Shakespeare cover art
Travel as Transformation cover art
We Can Do Better Than This cover art
How to Be Human: The Manual cover art
After the Storm cover art
Surviving Survival cover art
26.2 Miles to Happiness cover art
The Wedge cover art
The Comfort Crisis cover art
Changes That Heal cover art
The Social Animal cover art

Summary

An exploration of why people all over the world love to engage in pain on purpose - from dominatrices, religious ascetics, and ultramarathoners to ballerinas, icy ocean bathers, and sideshow performers.

Masochism is sexy, human, reviled, worshipped, and can be delightfully bizarre. Deliberate and consensual pain has been with us for millennia, encompassing everyone from Black Plague flagellants to ballerinas dancing on broken bones to competitive eaters choking down hot peppers while they cry. Masochism is a part of us. It lives inside workaholics, tattoo enthusiasts, and all manner of garden variety pain-seekers.

At its core, masochism is about feeling bad, then better - a phenomenon that is long overdue for a heartfelt and hilarious investigation. And Leigh Cowart would know: They are not just a researcher and science writer - they’re an inveterate, high-sensation seeking masochist. And they have a few questions: Why do people engage in masochism? What are the benefits and the costs? And what does masochism have to say about the human experience?

By participating in many of these activities themselves, and through conversations with psychologists, fellow scientists, and people who seek pain for pleasure, Cowart unveils how our minds and bodies find meaning and relief in pain - a quirk in our programming that drives discipline and innovation even as it threatens to swallow us whole.

©2021 Leigh Cowart (P)2021 PublicAffairs

Critic reviews

“Cowart has endless compassion for humans trying to find meaning and purpose while trapped in our fallible meat sacks. Hurts So Good is funny, explicit, and oddly wholesome.” (Caitlin Doughty, author of the New York Times best seller Smoke Gets in Your Eyes)

“It’s testament to Leigh Cowart’s skill and charm that a book about pain should feel so joyful, that a deeply taboo subject should get such a bright and vivid airing, and that experiences that should induce winces instead trigger laughs and moments of deep profundity. Hurts So Good is a book of wonderful paradoxes - a rich, hilarious, and endlessly fascinating look at a world that most of us know but few of us understand.” (Ed Yong, Pulitzer Prize-winner and author of I Contain Multitudes)

“A thorough examination of a widely shared human experience. Cowart blends memoir with research and observation deftly, and boldly shares the gritty details of her own sensation-seeking body. Relevant to anyone seeking to understand their own relationship with physicality. A must-read for those of us who find ourselves trying to explain so many complex things about our relationships to pain.” (Stoya, writer and pornographer)

What listeners say about Hurts So Good

Average customer ratings
Overall
  • 4 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    8
  • 4 Stars
    1
  • 3 Stars
    1
  • 2 Stars
    0
  • 1 Stars
    2
Performance
  • 4 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    6
  • 4 Stars
    1
  • 3 Stars
    1
  • 2 Stars
    0
  • 1 Stars
    1
Story
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    6
  • 4 Stars
    2
  • 3 Stars
    0
  • 2 Stars
    0
  • 1 Stars
    1

Reviews - Please select the tabs below to change the source of reviews.

Sort by:
Filter by:
  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Excellent look at pain

Genuinely excellent read about how we as people seek out pain. Cowman looks at the socially sanctioned pursuits like competitive spicy food and long distance running, as well as more stigmatized activities like BDSM. The descriptions vividly detail scenes that are both delightful and gory. These snapshots of 'pain on purpose' underpinned by thorough research on pain and how we perceive it

Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.

You voted on this review!

You reported this review!

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

amazing book and masterly told

this book made my laugh, cry, feel and learn. it entertains and teaches at the same time and even people not in the scene will learn a lot. As a non-machochist, thank you!

Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.

You voted on this review!

You reported this review!