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How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Anything - Yes, Anything!

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Repackaged with a stunning new cover and an insightful new foreword, this book is one of six Dr. Albert Ellis "How To" titles to be reissued by Citadel in 2016-2017. Widely recognized as a pioneer of 20th century psychotherapy, Albert Ellis's works have stood the test of time, and continue to serve as the cornerstone of the Albert Ellis Institute, which has centers in 6 American cities and 20 countries abroad. This acclaimed self-help classic has already helped thousands of readers/listeners to better their lives with the techniques and practices Dr. Ellis developed.

CLASSIC SELF-HELP FROM A RESPECTED PIONEER OF PSYCHOTHERAPY

All of us worry about something, big or small, every day. But much of the emotional misery we feel is an overreaction, and it can be significantly reduced, using the techniques you'll find in this landmark book.

World renowned therapist Dr. Albert Ellis, who created Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), believed that anger, anxiety, and depression are not only unnecessary, they're unethical, because when we allow ourselves to become emotionally upset, we're being unfair and unjust to ourselves. Thinking negative thoughts is a choice we can refuse to make. Applying the proven, time-tested principles of REBT is a simple, logical way to find true mental health and happiness.

REBT acknowledges the power of emotions, but it also helps us understand which feelings are healthy and which are not. This classic book teaches you how to:

  • Retrain your brain to focus on the positive aspects of your life and face each obstacle without unnecessary despair
  • Control your emotional destiny
  • Refuse to upset yourself about upsetting yourself
  • Solve practical problems as well as emotional problems
  • Conquer the tyranny of "shoulds"
  • ...and much more, providing all the tools you need to take back your life - and your happiness.

If you can refuse to make yourself miserable, you're that much closer to making yourself happy - every day.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your Library section along with the audio.

©1988, 2006 Albert Ellis Institute (P)2016 Brilliance Audio, all rights reserved. Foreword © 2016 Albert Ellis Institute. Lyrics by Albert Ellis, © by Albert Ellis Institute.

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  • Anonymous
  • 19-11-16

Secondary thoughts and feelings about primary thoughts and feelings

People upset themselves by their secondary thoughts and feelings about their primary thoughts and feelings. For example, irrational generalizations and judgmental requirements for life events create anxiety and stress. Rational views of these events eliminate unnecessary stress and anxiety. The concepts about judgements and feelings about life events are powerful and useful.
However, the book reads like one long footnote or symptom list. It should be edited.
A worthwhile read because the concepts are so psychologically useful in life.

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  • scott
  • 09-07-17

Refreshing

Be very careful. Dr. Ellis wrote so clearly and freshly that one may be tempted to skim parts of this book. Read this book several times because it is so crammed with common sense answers to some of the most baffling frustrations of life it could be easy to think "I already know this stuff it's common sense". That's where Dr. Ellis excels making very sophisticated understanding of the human predicament and to just plain common sense.

This book addresses maladies of people with only moderate issues but shouldn't be used for highly disordered people because they wouldn't have the ability in most cases or the motivation to be as disciplined as required by Dr. Ellis.

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  • Juan Chamorro
  • 11-12-16

The best of the best!

This is one of the best books you can get if you are interested in REBT. You will find here all the key principles, methods and techniques that make Albert Ellis' work so important.

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  • phillip joe fitzsimmons
  • 28-08-19

Another Remarkable Book by Albert Ellis

Wow, wow, wow... I usually need three books to work with when I am learning a new computer skill. I think it has to do with picking up pieces of the same information expressed in slightly different ways helping me to understand the new skill.

Ellis’s books are like that only for learning how to overcome our “nutty” thinking that diminish the quality of our lives.

This is not a book to make you better by understanding something. Instead, to get better the reader must work hard, probably for life, using the ideas and methods presented. But, even though getting better will probably require a lifetime of maintenance. This is still a way to improve the quality of life and actually get better.

I don’t know, I remember from reading these books that they are good. They do have a lot of the same content. But right now I like this one the best.

Odd thing about this audio version is it has over an hour-and-a-half of appendices that are not in my print copy. I looked because one contains a lot of lists and I wanted to see where it was going.

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  • AMIN F.
  • 16-06-19

Dig deep into REBT

It was good and the book gave lots of examples to use REBT. There is a part closer to the end of the book in which the narrator is just reading a long list which was difficult to use and process in audible format. I went and bought the book to help me navigate places I wanted to really focus on. Also as I read this before learning CBT it helped me understand CBT a lot more.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 01-10-17

Great Book on self help

This is very useful book in psychology which could be used to overcome our emotional distress and make life happier as much as possibl.

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  • BryanML
  • 27-09-17

great REBT book very comprehensive

this was a very comprehensive overview of REBT. the audible reader also did well. I recommend adding the kindle version as well.

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  • SBD Flyer
  • 25-09-18

Vehemently agnostic

Argues all belief in a rational creator is irrational.
Humanistic and situational ethics.
Where does human ration come from?

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