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How to Hug a Porcupine

Easy Ways to Love the Difficult People in Your Life

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 AS SEEN ON TIKTOK: Discover 101 easy communication strategies for dealing with difficult people—at home, at work, and in your community!

Learn to calm the quills of difficult parents, children, colleagues, and even strangers.

Most of us know someone who always seems to cause problems or irritate others. The truth is these troublemakers haven’t necessarily asked to be this way. Sometimes we need to learn new approaches for dealing with the difficult people who are harder to get along with or love.

This concise guide explains that making peace with others isn’t as tough or as terrible as we think it is. In 101 useful tips, it shows you how to love and manage the “prickly” people in your life—whether you want to calm the quills of difficult parents, children, siblings, or even strangers.

Since going viral on TikTok, thousands of people have discovered the power of Dr. Debbie Joffe Ellis’ practices. With a forwored by Ellis herself, How to Hug a Porcupine is a modern classic that will help you resolve conflicts, communicate effectively, and lead life with greater patience, empathy, and kindness! Conflict Resolution Dysfunctional Relationships Love, Dating & Attraction Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships
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The assumptions of the porcupines taken as examples didn't relate to what I was expecting.

Nothing....to be honest.

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I can't say that I found this book useful at all. Maybe I misunderstood but I found the whole narrative quite condescending. To describe a person as a porcupine works really well as a short metaphor. However I found that it works a bit dehumanizing to keep using the term all the way through the book. I also I feel like you are being told that you have the sole responsibility of making the relation with a (for a lack of better word) Porcupine work. You should have the patience of a saint, you can not get angry back, you can not let the things they say hurt you. You have to walk on eggshells to make them understand that what they did or said was hurtful. Maybe I completely misunderstood the text ( English is not my first language) but this was the impression it gave me and it made me a bit sad.

I did not enjoy this book, sorry

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I have listened to a few chapters and feel there is absolutely no depth to this book and I just can not continue to read it. whilst I loved the concept and the title of the book, I didn't think it was necessary to go in to so much detail about Porcupines and the different species, I also find the word porcupine thoughtout the book overused when describing difficult people very disrespectful to the person and too litteral. The approach to this subject is very surface level with what feels like a very basic understanding and could actually negativly impact some people based on it's very generalised one size fits all approach,for that reason I will not be continuing with the book

disappointed

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Listened for 5 minutes but it started to drive me mildly insane the respetativness of the use of the word porcupine was just too much maybe I’m the porcupine…

Stop saying porcupine it’s in the title we get it

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I enjoyed this read and listen, it was short and easy to focus on the message. I usually find it hard to stay focused because some writers tend go on and on without making a point, however this one is different. I think it is useful to learn some of the strategies and adopt perspectives in this book if you have difficult people in your life, or even identify as one even if it is a little. I like the metaphor of a porcupine, it’s loving and adorable but doesn’t downplay the sharpness of some people and their attitude.

Hug with Empathy and understanding

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