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Friendaholic

Confessions of a Friendship Addict

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Friendaholic

By: Elizabeth Day
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THE NO.1 SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER

‘Bravely revealing’ BERNARDINE EVARISTO

‘Funny, moving, helpful and true, Friendaholic deserves a massive audience’ SATHNAM SANGHERA

‘This book is brilliant’ JO ELVIN

‘Essential reading… admirably candid and well-crafted’ GUARDIAN

As a society, there is a tendency to elevate romantic love. But what about friendships? Aren't they just as – if not more – important? So why is it hard to find the right words to express what these uniquely complex bonds mean to us? In Friendaholic: Confessions of a Friendship Addict, Elizabeth Day embarks on a journey to answer these questions.

Growing up, Elizabeth wanted to make everyone like her. Lacking friends at school, she grew up to believe that quantity equalled quality. Having lots of friends meant you were loved, popular and safe. She was determined to become a Good Friend. And, in many ways, she did. But in adulthood she slowly realised that it was often to the detriment of her own boundaries and mental health.

Then, when a global pandemic hit in 2020, she was one of many who were forced to reassess what friendship really meant to them – with the crisis came a dawning realisation: her truest friends were not always the ones she had been spending most time with. Why was this? Could she rebalance it? Was there such thing as…too many friends? And was she really the friend she thought she was?

Friendaholic unpacks the significance and evolution of friendship. From exploring her own personal friendships and the distinct importance of each of them in her life, to the unique and powerful insights of others across the globe, Elizabeth asks why there isn’t yet a language that can express its crucial influence on our world.

From ghosting and frenemies to social media and seismic life events, Elizabeth leaves no stone unturned. Friendaholic is the book you buy for the people you love but it's also the book you read to become a better friend to yourself.

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Critic reviews

Praise for Friendaholic:

‘A joyful read’
THE SUNDAY TIMES

‘Essential reading… admirably candid and well-crafted’
THE GUARDIAN

‘(An)eloquent, disarmingly honest book’
DAILY MIRROR

‘A generous, companionable guide to a part of life every bit as crucial – and as fraught – as romance or family.’
THE OBSERVER

‘Perceptive, compassionate and filled with relatable insights into all that is beautiful about friendship, with its most valuable point being that it should be about quality, rather than quantity.’
THE DAILY MAIL

‘This book is brilliant.’ Jo Elvin

‘I’ve never read a book about friendships before. This one really digs deep, is bravely revealing and makes me reflect on my own friendship habits, issues, and culture.’ Bernardine Evaristo

‘I really want to say that reading Elizabeth Day feels like listening to a friend, but it's complicated by the fact that I’m an actual friend who makes an appearance in this book on friendship. But fuck it, it's true: reading Elizabeth Day feels like listening to a friend. And reading her on this strangely neglected theme is a revelation. Friendships can mean as much, sometimes even more than family, and finally we have a book that treats the subject with the seriousness it deserves. And Day is the best possible guide: funny, moving, helpful and true, Friendaholic deserves a massive audience.’ Sathnam Sanghera

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I really enjoyed listening to this on my long drives to pick my daughter up for weekend stays. I found a lot of it quite poignant and especially liked the part about 'friendship diversity' and accepting that not all friendships will be identical, not every one will be close, and we should try to enjoy them for what they are rather than what they are not.

a great listen, very insightful

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Elizabeth Day is magic. I remember once telling a friend in the media (listen to the audio book, you’ll get the reference later) that I worship at her alter. Weeks later, he ran into her at his publisher’s party, recounted the tale and she immediately asked for my email address, thanking me for being such a loyal follower. Who does that? Only Elizabeth Day. Listening to her analysis of friendships, more a memoir than a science book, made me love her even more. This is the most honest version of the author we’ve seen so far and there’s nothing one-dimensional about the woman that unfolds like an origami. You learn to envy her best friend Emma, come face-to-face with a theoretical into-the-wall pushing ex that you wish you could have protected her from non-theoretically, and start picking up your best friend’s calls after the first ring, calling them ‘the best of best friends’ regardless of how much they might protest.

This book can heal a broken heart, and not just after the end of a friendship. Having recently had my own heart reshaped around the smithereens he left in his wake, she once again provided more solace to me than any self-help book ever could. Although Elizabeth sets out to give the kind of language to friendships we usually reserve for relationships, strangely, she somehow manages to mirror it right back at them as well.

Read it, weep with it, cherish it. Then heal.

Friendship… in the throes of a romantic breakup

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Beautifully written, this book takes you on a wonderful journey of exploring friendships in their varied forms. Elizabeth’s emotional intelligence and shines through. I highly recommend this book, it’s highly enjoyable and interesting. There are also some research elements thrown in as well as other peoples perspectives. I found myself looking at my friendships, current and past in a newly found and educated way.

Very enjoyable book!

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A look into all aspects of friendships, in a sensitive and nuanced way. I like how the author balanced their experiences with stories of others and historical figures

Insightful and honest

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Made me sit down and think. I saw so much of myself and how I give.
There are other ways which I am discovering.
Thank you for the wonderful insight.x

Wonderful

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