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Fawning

Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves – and How to Find our Way Back

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By: Ingrid Clayton
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Fawning is the vital, newly-discovered topic in psychology. You've heard of fight, flight and freeze - but fawning might be the most common trauma response of all. Learn how to work through it and find freedom with the leading expert, Dr. Ingrid Clayton.

Do you avoid conflict?
Do you tend to take the blame?
Do you take care of others at the expense of yourself?
Do you live in a state of hypervigilance?

Fawning can present as being more of who someone is: smart, generous, successful, funny, or beautiful, while for others it's about being less: vocal, ethnic, creative, self-assured or boundaried. Fawning can be visible or invisible; it can manifest in our relationships to sex or money, or in the tendency to 'people-please'; but one thing remains constant: it is about finding safety in an unsafe world, often at our own expense.

Fawning expert and clinical psychologist Dr. Ingrid Clayton is here to bring clarity and support. The first book by a practitioner with years of experience, Fawning will shine a light on this under-represented but crucial piece of the trauma puzzle. Drawing on twenty years of clinical psychology work, as well as a lifetime of insight as a recovering fawner herself, this groundbreaking book brings this emerging concept into the mainstream conversation. Readers will learn WHY we fawn, HOW to recognize the signs of fawning and WHAT we can do to successfully 'unfawn', using Clayton's invaluable tools and resources to find meaningful, reciprocal connections - and finally be ourselves. Conflict Resolution Mental Health Personal Development Personal Success Post-Traumatic Stress Disorders Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Funny
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I saw myself in so many of the behaviours described in this book. it was really eye opening.

hopefully life changing

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I found listening to the book incredibly moving and emotionally healing on many levels.

complex post traumatic trauma the many layers

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This book is exceptional. It explains in detail so much that I didn’t have words for. If you’re a trauma survivor on a healing journey, believe you’re a ‘people pleaser’, or are in a codependent relationship, read this. It will transform your understanding of what is actually going on and give you a new lens to view yourself, your behaviours, and your relationships through. It’s an empowering book.

Life changing book

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I've never left a book review before but Ive been so positively impacted by this book I feel I have to. I've bought it now in physical copy as well so I can go back and re read sections with my journal. There were many times I had to sit down and just listen I was so struck by how relatable it was.

Game Changing

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I was so looking forward to this book being released because I knew it was just what I needed and there didn't seem to be much else out there dedicated to this particular trauma response: the book has more than met my hopes and expectations!

The feeling I was left with after finishing it was similar to when I'd listened to other equally important texts by Dr Ramani and Pete Walker... as in, I feel cared for, seen, believed and empowered. Ingrid is very clearly passionate about other trauma survivors finding our way to self-compassion and living with more joy through a greater understanding of ourselves and our ways of relating to others.

I already had quite a good understanding of what fawning meant through Pete Walker's work but I really appreciated how much depth this book went into. Personally, I enjoy learning through a mixture of scientific/neurological explanations combined with personal anecdotes, so this was perfect for me.

I also loved how the book was divided into two parts - the first half explaining just what fawning is and what it looks like, the second half about how UNfawning can be worked towards.

Thank you so much, Ingrid. This is a gamechanger for survivors, therapists. I've shared the link with so many of my friends already. I'm going to re-read it myself straight away, so that I can absorb it more.

A game-changing text!

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