Fawning
Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves – and How to Find our Way Back
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Narrated by:
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Ingrid Clayton
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Ingrid Clayton
About this listen
AS FEATURED ON BBC WOMAN'S HOUR
Fawning is the vital, newly-discovered topic in psychology. You've heard of fight, flight and freeze - but fawning might be the most common trauma response of all. Learn how to work through it and find freedom with the leading expert, Dr. Ingrid Clayton.
Do you avoid conflict?
Do you tend to take the blame?
Do you take care of others at the expense of yourself?
Do you live in a state of hypervigilance?
Fawning can present as being more of who someone is: smart, generous, successful, funny, or beautiful, while for others it's about being less: vocal, ethnic, creative, self-assured or boundaried. Fawning can be visible or invisible; it can manifest in our relationships to sex or money, or in the tendency to 'people-please'; but one thing remains constant: it is about finding safety in an unsafe world, often at our own expense.
Fawning expert and clinical psychologist Dr. Ingrid Clayton is here to bring clarity and support. The first book by a practitioner with years of experience, Fawning will shine a light on this under-represented but crucial piece of the trauma puzzle. Drawing on twenty years of clinical psychology work, as well as a lifetime of insight as a recovering fawner herself, this groundbreaking book brings this emerging concept into the mainstream conversation. Readers will learn WHY we fawn, HOW to recognize the signs of fawning and WHAT we can do to successfully 'unfawn', using Clayton's invaluable tools and resources to find meaningful, reciprocal connections - and finally be ourselves.
complex post traumatic trauma the many layers
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The feeling I was left with after finishing it was similar to when I'd listened to other equally important texts by Dr Ramani and Pete Walker... as in, I feel cared for, seen, believed and empowered. Ingrid is very clearly passionate about other trauma survivors finding our way to self-compassion and living with more joy through a greater understanding of ourselves and our ways of relating to others.
I already had quite a good understanding of what fawning meant through Pete Walker's work but I really appreciated how much depth this book went into. Personally, I enjoy learning through a mixture of scientific/neurological explanations combined with personal anecdotes, so this was perfect for me.
I also loved how the book was divided into two parts - the first half explaining just what fawning is and what it looks like, the second half about how UNfawning can be worked towards.
Thank you so much, Ingrid. This is a gamechanger for survivors, therapists. I've shared the link with so many of my friends already. I'm going to re-read it myself straight away, so that I can absorb it more.
A game-changing text!
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Breaking the Fawn!
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Life changing
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I am looking forward to meeting the person who I was supposed to be❤️🩷🧡
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