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Eve Rodsky is changing society one relationship at a time, by coming up with a 21st-century solution to an age-old problem: women shouldering the brunt of domestic responsibilities, the mental load, the emotional labour. Everything that is required to keep the fridge full, the children's homework in their schoolbags, and the the household running. The unequal division of all this invisible work in relationships is a recipe for disaster, but no one has offered a real solution to this dilemma, until now.

Eve Rodsky was tired of always being the one who has to remember to buy loo roll, or to book the family's dentist appointments, or to send the thank you cards - all while working full time. So Eve decided to do what she does every day as an organisational psychologist: organise. She conducted original research with more than 500 couples to figure out what the invisible work in a family actually is and how to get it done effectively and all in a way that makes relationships even stronger. Fair Play identifies the 100 main tasks in any relationship, and then divides those tasks fairly (not necessarily equally) so that both parties contribute their fair share.

If we don't learn to rebalance our home life and reclaim some time to develop the skills and passions that keep us unique, then we risk losing our right to be interesting, not just to our partner but to ourselves. Getting this right isn't a luxury, it's a necessity for a happy, lasting partnership. Part how-to guide for couples, part modern relationship manifesto, Fair Play offers an innovative system with a completely original lexicon to discuss how relationships actually work...and how we can make them work better.

©2019 Eve Rodsky (P)2019 Penguin Audio

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A Timed Message For Today's Couple.

I believe every married couple needs to buy this audio book, or the printed form of it at least. I know that this audio book primarily focuses on the bulk of family tasks falling on the woman. However there are couples out there where the man seems to be doing all the household duties as well as working. So whether you're a woman or a man please purchase this book if you are struggling with balancing your life between work and home.

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Great book to rebalance the mental load

I particularly found the sections on common traps in thinking and how to rethink about problems really helpful. The book ( and process) isn’t about blaming men for this gender imbalance but helps to understand negative cultural thoughts as well as internal relationship dynamics.

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Unless you’re a straight white woman with children it’s not for you

Don’t know what I was thinking when I bought this book as a childless woman of colour in a queer relationship. Reeks of privilege and ‘girlboss feminism’. Couldn’t get past chapter 2.

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disappointing and full of mixed messages

I really wanted to like this book and I really am behind the principles but the hectoring tone of the author rather started to get me down and constant mixed messages were really troubling. Apparently, we are all aiming for equality but equality, in this case, means as long as men take on 21% of the cards. Really?

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A must have entering a relationship

great book, full of wisdom I wish I had 20+ years ago. Still not to late, will re listen to it again and this time take notes, may even go out and buy hard copy. great book.

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Finally, 1 for Mums, without putting Dads down

Thankyou! Eve has found the home balance we need, whilst keeping everyone respected and loved

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Every couples need this books

A must read for all couples, reclaim your unicorn space! I can't wait to start playing!

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Fair Play by Eve Brodsky

Loved this book. The system recommended in it will only work if your partner (spouse, sibling, flatmate) is interested in fair play.