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Pia Mellody creates a framework for identifying codependent thinking, emotions and behaviour and provides an effective approach to recovery. Mellody sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses that occur in childhood. Central to Mellody's approach is the concept that the codependent adult's injured inner child needs healing. Recovery from codependence, therefore, involves clearing up the toxic emotions left over from these painful childhood experiences. 

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Quintessential read for anyone dealing with codependency

This book articulates and breaks down the important factors that a person needs to think about and reflect on if they are experiencing codependency.
It helped me articulate thoughts I had and helped me understand what it is I’m feeling and where I need to go next with it.
I totally recommend this important book.

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Too fast

Great book just wish it wasn't read at fast speed do one can take it in. it's such a shame as it's such a great book.

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outdated, but still helpful

this book is very oriented to cis heterosexuals, with only binary gender concepts. however, the concepts are still generally applicable, it seems.

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Excellent introduction into Codepence

Loved it so going to listen again and also been to a CoDA meeting in between.

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Enlightening

The content can be hard hitting and at times upsetting - just to warn people however it made me really take note of my codependency and take steps. My only critique, which is subjective is that I found the narrators voice monotonous and often switched off and had to rewind. Other than that I thank you!

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  • Molly Hamilton
  • 01-12-20

Love the book, extremely dislike the type of readers voice chosen.

I love her work so much, but I couldn’t handle the monotone voice. It felt like nails on a chalk board.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 24-01-21

GREAT CONTENT. But, why a male narrator?

Extremely Helpful Information. Excellent definition and description of Codependency and contributing factors!

BUT.. WHY is narrated by a man?
The book is written from the female perspective (presumably Pia Mellody) and says things like “as a female” as she shares her story.

In the first few chapters the narrator switched back and forth between male and female voices. I understand this because some listeners may have issues with one gender or the other. However, in the later chapters it was only narrated by the man. ITWAS STRANGE and distracting.

Great Content though, so I don’t regret purchasing.

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  • Sarah Adams
  • 03-03-21

So Much Insight

I have read Codependent No More, and that one was really, really good and eye opening. This one really dug in deep and gave such detail as to how we become codependent. The info in this one can be triggering, but it’s necessary for recovery. I feel changed for the better after reading this, and further able to continue my recovery from codependency. Highly recommend! I do wish the person reading it was a woman like Pia, or didn’t sound so methodical (though he’s not boring).

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 16-02-20

I finally found the book that helped after 20+ yrs

Omgosh, for 20+ years - even though I've read what seems like every personal development book out there - this is the first book that described my life to a T, made me finally see why I am the way I am and why I've done/do the things I do. This book is the biggest relief when I thought I'd never figure out what was wrong with me and is now the #1 book I'll recommend to ANYONE with issues because codependence is probably the underlying reason. Excellent! 👏👏

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  • 14-10-20

No advice on how to recover

So this book basically only defines the disorder and what caused it but little to no recommendations on how to recover from it!

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  • Debij
  • 24-09-20

Such great info if you can get past the narration

I read the reviews on the lousy narration of the book but thought it couldn’t be that bad and I’d try it anyway.. Dang it I’m sorry sir but it WAS that bad! So monotone and robotic that I almost returned the book. If you can hang in for the first 3-4 chapters, the information is great.
I too wish a female has narrated it.

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  • Heather
  • 14-11-19

Very informative

Very informative and well written. Great book. Highly recommended. Would be better with a female narrator.

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  • Amazon Kunde
  • 24-02-21

Great insight

Read this if you are a man who grew up with a narcissistic mother or a woman who grew up with a narcissistic father. It helps you to not project your opposite gender parent issue onto an entire gender as an adult.

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  • Angeline Dowell
  • 05-02-21

spot on

scary how true this is but it gives me hope for me to be in charge of my emotions.

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  • A.H.
  • 27-11-20

Helpful and Interesting

The content of this book was well laid out, cohesive, and very helpful. I would recommend this to anyone wanting to learn more about codependence, thinks they could be codependent, or know someone who is codependent.

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