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Summary

Random House presents the audiobook edition of F*** You Very Much, written and read by Danny Wallace.

You're not imagining it. People are getting ruder. And this is a serious problem.

The book that inspired the iTunes Top Ten podcast.

Did you know that even one rude comment in a life-and-death situation can decrease a surgeon’s performance by as much as 50 percent? That we say we don’t want rude politicians, but we vote for them anyway? Or that rude language can sway a jury in a criminal case?

Best-selling writer and broadcaster Danny Wallace (Yes Man, Awkward Situations for Men) is on a mission to understand where we have gone wrong. He travels the world interviewing neuroscientists, psychologists, NASA scientists, barristers, bin men, and bellboys. He joins a Radical Honesty group in Germany, talks to drivers about road rage in LA, and confronts his own online troll in a pub.

And in doing so, he uncovers the latest thinking about how we behave; how rudeness, once unleashed, can spread like a virus; and how even one flippant remark can snowball into disaster.

As insightful and enthralling as it is highly entertaining, F*** You Very Much is an eye-opening exploration into the worst side of human behaviour.

This book was originally published under the title I Can’t Believe You Just Said That. But we decided it just wasn’t rude enough....

©2018 Danny Wallace (P)2018 Random House Audiobooks

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"A cry for human decency...deliciously hilarious. I politely encourage you to read this book. Immediately." (Adam Grant author of Originals, Give and Take, Option B)

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Warning: Old Book, New Name

This is a reissue, under a new title, of Danny Wallace's "I Can't Believe You Just Said That". So yes, I've unwittingly bought it twice.

I didn't get the same enjoyment from this as I have from Danny's other, "project" style books such as "Join Me", "Friends Like These", "Yes Man" etc. It has a rather more worthy tone and contains many references to research papers and books expounding on why we do what we do and, unlike those others, this is the only one of his audiobooks that I didn't listen to more than once.

He's a very good reader of his own work and this book is no exception in that regard and I know others will love it, but I'm afraid that I'm not in that number. I'll buy his next just the same, hoping that this was just a misstep.

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Very entertaining

This is very interesting and amusing. Easy to listen to and thought provoking. Got me hooked, Danny has got a great delivery.

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Genuinely the most important book of the last 10 years

I started this with an expectation of hearing a collection of short stories about conflict told as only Danny Wallace can, assuming I’d fill my outrage meter to breaking point, then rest and repeat.

Instead, I’ve just listened to a book that’s profoundly changed me and how I think about the people around me. Before getting angry at the kinds of people I have to deal with every day, I try and remember the plethora of quoted scientific studies mentioned in the book to internally resolve my anger.

Danny Wallace uses “the hotdog incident” as the hub in a hub and spoke model where he revisits the incident using a range of lenses; class, race, age, gender etc. Of course, as is always the case with Danny Wallace, it’s written in his trademark easy going, immediately engaging style with minimal exposition and maximum humour.

I love this book so much I actually bought copies for the team I manage (unfortunately we have very high rates of workplace bullying where we are), and even coerced an HR rep to read it over Christmas. I have never recommended anything to anyone more than I recommend this book to whoever reads this review.

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Fun idea for a great tale

Really enjoyed this take. saw a lot of what Danny said in the world today. yes we are becoming so rude today.

Pity. But we only have ourselves to blame

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Hilarious and informative

Who knew rudeness was so problematic? Danny Wallace is a hilarious writer made even better by his narration. The mind boggles at some of the findings that the research shows hopefully it'll make us all a bit more polite.

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Very enjoyable

I really enjoyed this audible book. Danny did a superb job delving into the murky depths of rudeness and keeping me engaged from start to finish. Danny is excellent as a narrator and has written this book in a relatable and entertaining way. Thumbs up!

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Mind opening listen

the study of rudeness.
brilliantly written and read. thanx Danny.
humorous and informative.
I will certainly time my next hotdog order. whether it is cooked to order or not. 🤠

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A Great Listen !

loved this very funny and informative book, laugh out loud humour and very relatable

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Amazing

For such a basic principle, this book is an absolute gem! I always love Danny’s narration of his books, but this one meant the passion he feels for Madame Hotdog really has some gravitas.

Best listen in over a year!

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impressive study and social analysis

This feels like a scientific document, should be mandatory in schools maybe. Since I read it I paid more attention to rude people, how it affects me and how rude I appear to others.
Hopefully there will be another book by the same author on study of politeness and kindness and it's effects on people.