Changing your attachment style isn’t something most people want to think about, and what incentive do they have to do so? They’ve been doing things a certain way for a very long time, and it’s hard for many people to take an honest look at themselves. It’s no wonder your relationships aren’t working, or worse, they end before they’ve even begun. People who are in this position struggle with not knowing what they truly need from their partner, which leads them to feel a whirlwind of emotions that often fluctuate between highs and lows. Knowing your strengths and weaknesses in a relationship can help you alter your mental processes and gain an understanding of what makes a relationship flourish.

Attachments are established during childhood and throughout early adulthood. Everything you know about the inner workings of relationships is predicated on the attachments you’ve formed throughout your life. How you go about getting your needs met today may be no different than when you were a child. But knowledge of the four attachment styles can help improve your understanding of your and your partner’s needs.

When you learn about your attachment style, you’ll understand what you need and how to get it. Also, you’ll understand more about your partner and the attachments to which they are connected. Your attachment style may be the key to understanding your perspective on how relationships should work. Certain attachments can create misery that leads to insecurity and feelings of being unfulfilled. Are you constantly putting your desires before your partner’s needs? And are you expecting someone else to make you happy instead of realizing that happiness comes from within? Is your partner distancing him or herself from you?

We all want happy, healthy relationships, but are you willing to take responsibility for unhealthy attachments you’ve created and make the necessary changes that will foster an unselfish and loving relationship? If your relationship is falling apart and you’re not sure why, you’re not alone. More people are starting to identify the negative attachments that were developed during childhood and the impact they’re having during adulthood. My goal is to help you understand the four types of attachments and how they can either hinder or improve your relationships.