Discovering the Inner Mother
A Guide to Healing the Mother Wound and Claiming Your Personal Power
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Narrated by:
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Cassandra Campbell
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Bethany Webster
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Sure to become a classic on female empowerment, a groundbreaking exploration of the personal, cultural, and global implications of intergenerational trauma created by patriarchy, how it is passed down from mothers to daughters, and how we can break this destructive cycle.
Why do women keep themselves small and quiet? Why do they hold back professionally and personally? What fuels the uncertainty and lack of confidence so many women often feel? In this paradigm-shifting book, leading feminist thinker Bethany Webster identifies the source of women’s trauma. She calls it the Mother Wound—the systemic disenfranchisement of women by the patriarchy—and reveals how this cycle is perpetuated by wounded mothers who unconsciously pass on damaging beliefs and behaviors to their daughters.
In her workshops, online courses, and talks, Webster has helped countless women re-examine their lives and their relationships with their mothers, giving them the vocabulary to voice their pain, and encouraging them to share their experiences. In this manifesto and self-help guide, she offers practical tools for identifying the manifestations of the Mother Wound in our daily life and strategies we can use to heal ourselves and prevent our daughters from enduring the same pain. In addition, she offers step-by-step advice on how to reconnect with our inner child, grieve the mother we didn’t have, stop people-pleasing, and, ultimately, transform our heartache and anger into healing and self-love.
Revealing how women are affected by the Mother Wound, even if they don’t personally identify as survivors, Discovering the Inner Mother revolutionizes how we view mother-daughter relationships and gives us the inspiration and guidance we need to improve our lives and ultimately create a more equitable society for all.
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Lots of good points made
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However there were elements of the book that felt icky and toxic and under-minded the important message. I wish there was more empathy for mothers. I'm still unpicking why it made me feel uneasy but i think it boils down to the the messaging that you need to cut your mother out if she doesn't behave how you want her to when you confront her of all her ills.
Bethany's own personal story is important, but i feel it has too much text dedicated to it.
That said, there were some real a-ha moments for me and its been an important read in my self improvement journey.
Great, but listen with an open mind
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A book you will read again and again
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It was quite profound to explore how patriarchy moulds our families and, in turn, our own identities as daughters. I feel that this book would be especially helpful for women who suffered abuse or mistreatment at the hands of their mothers, by helping us to realise that we aren’t responsible for our mother’s actions or pain. My favourite part of the book was the chapter on cultivating our inner-mother and I would have enjoyed learning more about this.
Now for the negatives; although the author says that this book isn’t about blaming mothers for our pain, I felt an overwhelming amount of blame was targeted at mother everywhere. Every issue or difficulty which daughters experience is caused by their mothers. For all the talk of showering ourselves and other women in empathy, I didn’t feel much empathy towards mothers. At some points I felt that the author ‘othered’ mums, that’s to say she talks about mothers as though they are somehow a different species to other women. There was some reflection on the historic and social circumstances which may have led our mothers to struggle with emotions, but I didn’t feel the author really grasped that many older women simply didn’t have the tools, insight or opportunities to be ‘enlightened’ women. If our mothers have fallen short or mistreated us then simply labelling them as ‘selfish, unenlightened, unwilling to do the work of self-actualisation’ does an injustice to women everywhere. If there was one message which I could pass on to the author it would be this: mothers, even the bad ones, are people too.
An interesting, but sometimes frustrating, book
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Great read for newbies to the mother wound
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