You tell yourself it won't happen. You avoid the word "divorce" like saying it out loud will make it real. You wait. You hope. You pray things shift.

Meanwhile, assets move. Attorneys get hired — just not by you. And when it hits, you're blindsided.

That was my story. I lost assets, lost leverage, and watched my divorce drag on because I refused to face what was happening. I thought I could handle it. I thought we'd figure it out. I was wrong.

If you are in a difficult, abusive, or high-conflict marriage — this episode is for you. Not every divorce requires deep planning. But if your spouse is less than trustworthy, if coercive control or financial manipulation exists, if children and significant assets are involved — you cannot afford to leave your future up to chance.

Here's what I walk you through in this episode: the three steps you need to take right now — decide, plan, and act. I share what happened when I didn't plan, what happened when a client did, and why the women who protect themselves aren't bitter — they're grown.

Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce. Thinking you're the exception doesn't make you one. Eyes wide open, information in hand, and a solid plan — that's what makes you the exception.

No one is coming to save you. But you can save yourself.

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Divorce doesn't just break your heart — it can shatter your mental health in ways you never saw coming.

You tell yourself you'll feel better once the papers are filed, once he moves out, once the court date passes. But the truth is, healing doesn't work on a timeline. Grief hits you in the strangest moments — standing in an unfamiliar grocery store, driving 40 minutes to your kids' activities, watching your whole routine dissolve.

The losses can be huge. You lose the relationship, the home, the neighborhood, the friend group, the church. Your kids ask questions you can't answer. Your attorney bills you for every email. Your ex hires a shark who treats you like a criminal. It all crashes down at once.

If you're a woman with a vision, your instinct is to power through. You've handled everything else — why not this? But divorce can crack open old wounds you thought you buried. It can trigger childhood trauma, collapse your nervous system, and push you into survival mode — especially when you're also juggling midlife, hormonal shifts, teenagers, or aging parents.

This is not the time to be superwoman. This is the time to build your support team. Find a therapist who champions you. Hire a coach who's walked this road. Ditch anyone who plays devil's advocate with your pain.

Seeing your real needs during this time can make all the difference.

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In this podcast episode, I discuss mistakes and mindset strategies for divorcing a person with narcissistic tendencies.

Some people say the word narcissist is overused. I disagree. And I love that those people have the privilege of never having experienced a narcissist in an intimate setting.

When women use this word, we know what we mean. We're describing an experience that can't be captured in one simple term—the gaslighting, the silent treatment, the crazy-making moments that leave you questioning your own reality.

If you're divorcing someone with narcissistic tendencies, your divorce will look different from everyone else's. And here's what makes it harder: you've been trained to doubt yourself. You've learned to wait for permission. You've been conditioned to seek validation from people who may never understand what you've lived through.

I remember documenting my marriage for 48 days straight—writing down what happened each day so I could see the patterns in black and white. When I showed those notes to my mentor, she told me I was "being negative" and walked out of my house. She never spoke to me again.

I learned that nobody was coming to save me. I had to own my own reality.

If you're divorcing a narcissist, base your strategy on the worst moments, not the honeymoon phases. Go in prepared—with the right attorney, the right support team, and the right information. Don't bring a pen knife to a gunfight.

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