Thinking about divorce? The way you approach telling your spouse can determine your safety, your financial future, and your children's wellbeing. This isn't about whether you should leave—it's about understanding what happens when you do.

Most women walk into this conversation with the same mindset that kept them stuck in the relationship. You've minimized problems for years. You've told yourself "I can handle this" or "It's not that bad." That thinking protects you while you're staying. It harms you when you're leaving.

Here's the truth: You cannot approach a difficult spouse with an "everything will work out" mentality. You cannot show all your cards to someone who hides theirs. You cannot expect peaceful co-parenting from someone who disregards your wellbeing.

The solution? Recalibrate before you speak.

First, understand your unique situation. Know where the money sits. Know the risks. Know what leaving the home means in your state.

Second, make a plan. For some women, this means a safety plan. For others, it means gathering financial documents, consulting an attorney, or having support in place. One client took a month to prepare—and that preparation protected her and her children.

Third, build emotional resilience. Prepare for what might happen so you don't get blindsided.

Preparing doesn't mean you have to file. It means you refuse to ignore the issue.

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You know that feeling when you say "I can't believe this is happening"? That phrase reveals something important: you might be stuck in denial.

Divorce shatters your reality. It forces you to question your past, present, and future all at once. Your brain protects you by avoiding these overwhelming truths. But denial keeps you vulnerable. While you refuse to engage, reality moves forward—often against your interests.

Maybe you discovered infidelity. Maybe your spouse blindsided you with divorce papers. Maybe you chose to leave but still find yourself shocked by what happens next. The confusion stems from the cycle of drama: tension builds, an incident explodes, apologies follow, calm returns—then it starts again. This cycle traps you in a fog where you forget why things felt so bad.

Here's what changed everything for me: I grabbed a notebook and documented my daily experiences for 48 days. Not for court. Not to prove anything to anyone. Just to own my reality. Those pages helped me see the patterns I couldn't recognize in the moment.

Documentation creates consciousness. Consciousness creates choice. Choice creates freedom.

Stop comparing the worst moments of your relationship to the best moments of that same relationship. That comparison keeps you trapped. You deserve to know what healthy looks like.

Your relationship with yourself is the longest one you'll ever have. Back yourself up. Trust yourself. Own your experience.

Ready to move forward? Schedule a dating consultation call with Sade at sadecurry.com/info and start building the life you deserve.

You might have noticed something different—we changed our name.

Welcome to Your Extraordinary Life and Dating After Divorce. Same host, expanded mission.

Here's what happened: I spent years focused on dating after divorce. But the truth? Half my clients work with me on other parts of the divorce journey—thinking about divorce, surviving the process, healing afterward. And I realized I was hiding these stories and frameworks from you.

So we're expanding.

January brings you divorce-focused episodes. Then we return to a mix of dating and divorce content throughout the year. You choose what serves you.

My approach stays the same whether we tackle dating or divorce: I help you cut through the noise. The childhood programming. The societal expectations. The voices that drown out what you want.

Because here's what I know: You can do whatever you choose. The hard part? Figuring out what you want when everyone else tells you what you should want.

I started as a divorce coach in 2016. I pieced together my own healing journey when nothing existed for divorced women. That experience shapes how I work with women today—helping them advocate for themselves without guilt, build lives that fit them, and make decisions from clarity instead of fear.

This year brings more content, more truth, more tools.

Ready to create your extraordinary life? Schedule a dating consultation call with Sade at sadecurry.com/info