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Summary

From a founding member of the coaching movement comes a detailed guide to mastering one of a coach’s toughest skills: thoughtfully reflecting clients’ words and expressions back to them so they see themselves and their world through new eyes.

“Coaches rely far too much on asking open-ended questions,” says Marcia Reynolds. But questions only seek answers — inquiry provides insight. When, instead of just questions, clients hear their thoughts, opinions, and beliefs spoken by someone else, it prompts them to critically consider how their thinking affects their goals. Reynolds cites the latest brain science to show why reflective inquiry works and provides techniques, tips, and structures for creating breakthrough conversations. 

This book will free coaches from the cult of asking the magical question by offering five essential practices of reflective inquiry: Focus on the person, not the problem; summarize what is heard and expressed; identify underlying beliefs and assumptions; unwrap the desired outcome; and articulate insights and commitments. Using these practices, combined with a respectful and caring presence, helps create a space where clients feel safe, seen, and valued for who they are. Coaches become change agents who actively recharge the human spirit. And clients naturally dive deeper and develop personalized solutions that may surprise even the coach.

©2020 Marcia Reynolds (P)2020 Marcia Reynolds

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Exceptional

Especially if you are a new coach, coaching might seem quite confusing. Marcia has simplified and clarified coaching to its constituents parts. An approach to coaching that truly has the potential to change lives once you embody the knowledge condensed in this book. Spend a month on each chapter, embody it and then move on. I would advice you, after the introduction, to begin with the 3 mental habits, and then to move towards the 5 essential practises. Her approach is very similar to Motivational Interviewing and no wonder, as both approaches are created to bring about a behavioural change. Enjoy the journey :)

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Best Book

Brilliant book, great if you are new to coaching or experienced. A handbook that I will regularly access as a new Coach. Easy to connect with and the case studies are helpful. I've now downloaded the kindle version!

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Insightful

Marcia really focuses on what it means to 'be' a coach throughout this book, her advice offers invaluable insight, developed from her own extensive coaching experience, to provide new and experienced coaches with deep perspectives on what it mean to being a coach.

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coaching brilliance

very thankful to the author for taking time to share her knowledge and experience

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possibly easier to read than to listen to

I found this hard to listen to and follow as the pace is fairly fluent. for me, it would have been better to read it and underline relevant passages.

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By far the worst coaching book I've listened to

Main reasons I didn't like this book. Quotes herself when giving "motivational" style quotes. Picks on tiny differences and spends the first part of the book tearing down coaching before implying her way is the only way. Some things just don't make any sense, e.g. reflective inquiry or basically making a statement that when said aloud would for all intents be a question, but she says questions aren't the right option...

I really tried to give it a go, and was within the last hour of the book but couldn't put up with it any more.

One of two tiny pieces of useful information in one book isn't much value.

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  • 31-10-20

Conventional coaching

There are basic ideas like reflecting, focusing outcomes and coaching the person instead of the problem. The main reason this was not for me is because of the reflecting, summarizing and paraphrasing the clients content. I lean more towards clean language and this is too "dirty" for me, because you are changing/distorting the content when you reflect, summarize or paraphrase, alas, this is what many coaches teach/do. It's not that it's completely ineffective, just other options allow the client to work through and resolve issues more in line with my own practice. If you're new, a fan of the author, or are inclined to this type of model, go for it. I'd recommend Caitlin Walker for those tired of the same-o, same-o. Lesser known and highly effective. YMMV

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  • 20-02-21

Doing Coaching or Being a Coach

The book is full.of practical tips and ideas with examples which are real and help grasp the concept in an effective manner !

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  • Peggy Thommesen
  • 03-01-21

thought provoking

I am not a professional coach, I am a manager of a team and I wanted to find ways to coach differently to produce different results, thus decided to listen to this book. I also bought the book about half way through because I liked what I was hearing. I have gained a new perspective when conducting my conversations. The narrator was very easy to follow.

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  • Lisa Priebe
  • 30-05-22

Reccomend .

If you coach and haven't read this yet, I highly reccomend. Well done, well-written, and well received! Vital information necessary to masterful coaching.

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  • CStarre
  • 18-02-22

Powerfully Informative & Inspirational!

Simply a must read for anyone interested in BEing an incredible, compassionate Human. Be The Change you wish to see in the world. - Gandhi

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  • 27-08-21

Love it

Everyone who is dealing with people should listen to this book and learn from it.

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  • 10-07-21

Excellent information and wisdom!

The author clearly laid out her concepts, which can be immediately applied to the coaching space, the professional associates and in personal relationships, as well. The performance was well-paced and the narrator was easy to listen to. I thoroughly enjoyed this experience and will order a hardcopy of this book to add to my reference library.

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  • Rashid AlQarni
  • 26-04-21

A must read for all coaches

What a great value-adding book. In addition to the conceptual discussion, it's a gem of How-to guidance supported with lots of case studies and tips that manifest how the concepts look in practice. As a coach, I found this book well worth the time spent listening to it. I highly recommend it.