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Dr. William Glasser offers a new psychology that, if practiced, could reverse our widespread inability to get along with one another, an inability that is the source of almost all unhappiness.

For progress in human relationships, he explains that we must give up the punishing, relationship-destroying external control psychology. For example, if you are in an unhappy relationship right now, he proposes that one or both of you could be using external control psychology on the other. He goes further. And suggests that misery is always related to a current unsatisfying relationship. Contrary to what you may believe, your troubles are always now, never in the past. No one can change what happened yesterday.

©1998 William Glasser, MD (P)2013 HarperCollins Publishers

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Wonderful

Tremendously interesting and enlightening. Much about USA though which I couldn't relate to as I'm Irish.
I couldn't recommend this book highly enough in terms of enlightenment.

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Amazing

Choice theory will help you get rid of arrogance, pride and anger over the dumbest of things that are so petty in your life and relationships, it'll help you feel better and apply some of these things as a counsellor as well which is why im here.

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ChoiceTheory good but mainly case study.

Good attempt to explain what it is but I'd prefer if it the philosophy was explained more in the application. Google is better.

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Interesting but not science-based

it's an interesting theory with good examples, presented in an engaging way. BUT he presents no scientific grounds whatsoever. Meanwhile he presents it as though it is a fact and not a theory.

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Interesting and alluring but full of author hubris

Interesting and alluring but full of author hubris. Worth a listen but there's certainly a whiff of fairytale about some ideas like quality communities.

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brilliant information

loved it. every chapter gave more and more insight into the behaviours we operate with on a daily basis. powerful in every way. im off to make better choices in life & love ♡

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  • FrankD
  • 03-01-15

Interesting..

I learned a lot from the book..I can see how I can apply much of what was shared to my life. I still struggle a little with the idea of how to implement it in my life with my children. In a perfect world, I can see how wonderful it would be if everyone adopted choice theory, but that is not the case. My children are still attending schools that do not offer such thinking..I still interact daily with people who are attempting to deal with me using external control. I will be a work in progress 😊

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  • Patrick Mabry, Jr.
  • 12-08-14

Make a great choice; read this one!

Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom by William Glasser, M.D. is an excellent guide for building strong relationships in your marriage, with your children, in education, and in business. Using basic principles fleshed out by detailed case studies, Glasser leads the reader to effective strategies in these and other situations where building relationships will resolve problems. Glasser contrasts external coercion based with choice based approaches to building and maintaining relationships. He suggests that humans have five inherited needs which vary genetically in their importance to us. These varying needs in those with whom we have or need to have relationships are at the heart of conflict. Dr. Glasser's principles are easily understood, but are counter intutive to the external coercive models of relating to which we are accustomed. I intend to add this book to my reread regularly list. I highly recommend this book to anyone who struggles to relate to those in his or her life.

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  • Julia Zatta
  • 23-04-21

Interesting read but..

Interesting concept. Seems opinion based more than it is fact based even though the author is a psychiatrist. I appreciate some concepts presented like the author's opinion regarding education. What I don't like is the way the author portrays women. I particularly dislike that non proficient students are named "Staceys".. Why? I believe gender could be treated more delicately.

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  • ya-rule
  • 04-06-20

good stuff. excellent pace. quality material.

excellent work of therapy for professional and lay people. great for students and parents. we need more of Glasser's work

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  • Addison R Tackaberry
  • 03-06-20

Choice Theory is exceptional in written form

The ideas contained in this work are exceptional in so many ways. The audio book does not do justice in my opinion to the written form.

Let me also note that the last section of this book on educational theory stemming from Choice Theory was a let down. Everything up to that point was full of insights. Everything after that point, not so much. Just one man's opinion!

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  • JoeyP
  • 25-02-20

Snake oil

Pseudoscience in a self-help format written by a psychiatrist; it has no empirical ground and goes against DSM. The issue is that his opinion is presented as fact which is unprofessional and harmful.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 28-01-20

Great

This book was recommended by our kids therapist and it has really helped our family put things into consideration.

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  • wildblue
  • 08-10-19

Incredible theory that is a must-read!

I definitely capture the vision of the author and think it would be best if everyone could at least expose themself to this concept of Choice Theory. I could see relationships, marriages, parent-child dynamics and schools improving greatly if the majority of people could adopt this way of thinking.

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  • Fabian
  • 15-04-19

Good book, good theory, great narration!

First of all I’m a psychologist in training so I bought this book for practical reasons. Choice theory and reality therapy can be a little hard to swallow but Glasser shows us great vignettes of therapy sessions that makes us think and understand his theory. Overall it was a good book and the theory is pretty great. The narrator was superb! He changes voices in the vignettes and dramatized the therapy session.

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  • Buddy Thornton
  • 28-03-19

An every person read

Choice theory explained and made real in everyday contexts by the man who invented the theory...best listen