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Boundaries in Dating

How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships
Narrated by: Jonathan Petersen
Length: 8 hrs and 9 mins
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Boundaries in Dating provides a way to think, solve problems, and enjoy the benefits of dating in the fullest way, including increasing the ability to find and commit to a marriage partner.

©2000 Henry Cloud (P)2009 Zondervan

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Found this too serious and a tad legalistic at times

I loved the Boundaries book which is his best one. This was great to begin with but saying to someone “I’m sensitive and hurt easily” would be such a turn off. It was too clinical at times and I feel wasn’t half as good as the main boundaries book.

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Great book

Loved the handy hints and tips with regards to dating, honestly it’s like a mind-field. Not anymore. Love how the authors made sense from an intelligent and practical way, how good dating will incur great results, equally how making the wrong choice is detrimental for everyone involved. Very good book, boundaries are for our good, use them wisely and they’ll steer you clearly.

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stocatto voice over is very cardboard

struggling to finish this book. it's very rudimentary and if you are older with life and relationship experience it's not really the book for you. plus the reading is so frustrating and cardboard. ..he may as well be reading a grocery list.

I found it condescending and basic adding no real value to my relationship life.

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Absolute epiphany

This book is a godsend! I was hesitant in picking it up as I took it to be a typical book on "Christian dating". But the Drs approach to the topic is clear cut, relatable and refreshing. Not overbearing at all in referencing Christian principles and scriptures. Must read for all, believers or not!

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In my opinion Not particularly helpful if you are not particularly religious- continual bible speak distracts from the more valuable content

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Bible-bashing dating advice

What would have made Boundaries in Dating better?

Taking the church, god and bible out of it. I am certain there are plenty of people out there who lead perfectly good lives and date in a reasonable way without being bashed over the head with the bible.

You didn’t love this book--but did it have any redeeming qualities?

I would have kept it if it was a non-religious psychological/self-improvement advice.

Any additional comments?

Why not try "The tale of two brains" (male brain v. female brain, find on YouTube and listen past the churchly remarks - a blast of comedy with the same message - and it's free)

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  • F. Bramming
  • 27-01-15

Packed with good Godly advice

I am a single male age 23, who has never dated before. This book has given me some good healthy God fearing advice, that I think will be helpful to me when I start dating women.
The book is definitely directed towards followers of Jesus, but is still packed with advice that would also seem logical to people of other religions.
I would read this again when I find myself dating, since a lot of the information is a little bit hard to relate to without being able to mirror in your own present dating experience.
One of the best things about the book is that it is so full of real life stories that can explain their concepts practically.
This is a minor thing, but I find some of the references to the bible verses used to reinforce, that their statements are biblical, a bit weak. I believe that their advice is true, wise and rooted in love for God and others, so for me I would rather be without some of the bible references that don't really fit in.
I find the speaker easy to understand and fine to listen to.

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  • krista
  • 20-05-13

Great advice, weird narrator

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

Wise, Godly, down-to-earth advice from a psychotherapeutic perspective.

What was one of the most memorable moments of Boundaries in Dating?

Loved all the personal examples.

How could the performance have been better?

Why did the narrator have to say matoor and imatoor instead of mature and immature? Why? Seems silly but the word is used very frequently throughout the book so it really grates on you after a while.

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  • SPotter
  • 21-02-15

Eye-opening info

Really good read for singles, but there's good stuff in here too for people with troubled relationships. A must read.

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  • quentin
  • 17-06-15

Great book, very helpful

Drs. Cloud and Townsend are very good at pointing out many specific areas where boundaries are needed, and the consequences that may occur if they are not put in place.

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  • Jordan Lambert
  • 18-03-15

How to be SUCCESSFUL in dating!!!

This book had to be sent to me by God. I had no idea that I would relate to the examples used in this book so much. The advice is good, healthy, doable, practical, biblical based advice on how having correct boundaries can make your dating experiences better and more successful. I wish that I had read this book a long time ago. I am putting this advice into action in my new relationship and we are both reaping the benefits already!

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  • Bronwyn Johnson
  • 14-04-15

Wish I'd read this sooner!

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

Yes definitely. This is great, practical advice that should be compulsory reading for everyone. It teaches how to set boundaries, not only in dating but in life.

Who was your favorite character and why?

It's not a story book so no characters.

Which character – as performed by Jonathan Petersen – was your favorite?

It's not a story book so no characters.

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

It made me nod in agreement so many times. It also helped me see things very clearly and understand behavior and why relationships failed in the past.

Any additional comments?

The book is really well written and the Doctors give so many real life examples to illustrate the learning. I really enjoyed it. I'm going to read all their other books. It offers great Bible based advice, without being judgmental or "preachy". Excellent read!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 04-05-19

The first Boundaries book was much more helpful.

The narrator was a little hard for me to listen to on my drive to work. zzzzzZZZZZZ
The original Boundaries book was amazing and super helpful. If you just listen to or read that one, you will not need to hear or read this one. If you only want to read or hear this one it gives good insight into dating with boundaries. I felt like I learned more from the one chapter about dating in the Boundaries book than I did from this whole book. The biggest takeaway I got from this is that dating is not the arena to achieve self love because it is high risk with low commitment. It is better to work on that with friends, family, church and a good support system first. This advice was very valuable for me, but was also addressed in the first book.

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  • Brenda L. Breuer
  • 11-04-17

This is a must read for anyone dating!!!

Loved this book! opened my eyes, heart, mind and spirit. Needed to stop and take notes a lot, so driving and listening was sometimes difficult. I ended up taking a ton of notes to refer back to. Wish I would have had this book in my younger years. I am learning,g why I am still single at 47 years old. But, its never too late to learn!

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  • Erica
  • 01-03-16

Great message, poor performance.

Would you be willing to try another one of Jonathan Petersen’s performances?

Hesitant, but willing. Jonathan's pronunciations of err and maturity / immaturity proved to be very distracting from the message. I found myself frustrated with his pronunciation of maturity / immaturity, which made those words an extremely noticeable amount in the book.

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  • doingme11
  • 09-10-13

AWESOME dating guidelines

Would you consider the audio edition of Boundaries in Dating to be better than the print version?

I LOVED this book and wished that I had found it earlier in life, because it probably would have saved me a lot of heartache. I plan to have my daughters read this before they leave for college. My boyfriend and I went through the book together while in the beginning stages of our relationship, and this has been the best relationship thus far for both of us. We have both recommended this book to others that have not had much luck in the dating department, and they too have had nothing but good things to say. Although there were several things that I already knew, just had not been serious about putting into practice I did have several aha moments. This is definitely one that you should check out...you won't be disappointed.

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