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Boundaries

When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
Narrated by: Henry O. Arnold
Length: 11 hrs and 18 mins
4 out of 5 stars (35 ratings)
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Summary

Boundaries is the book that's helped more than 2 million people learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of their lives.

Does your life feel like it's out of control? Perhaps you feel like you have to say yes to everyone's requests. Maybe you find yourself readily taking responsibility for others' feelings and problems. Or perhaps you focus so much on being loving and unselfish that you've forgotten your own limits and limitations. Or maybe it's all of the above.

In the New York Times best seller, Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend help you learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of your life and set healthy, biblical boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even yourself.

Now updated and expanded for the digital age, this book continues to help millions of people around the world answer these tough questions:

  • Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
  • What are legitimate boundaries?
  • How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me?
  • What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
  • How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?
  • Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?
  • How do boundaries relate to mutual submission within marriage?
  • Aren’t boundaries selfish?

You don’t have to let your life spiral out of control. Discover how boundaries make life better today!

Plus, check out the Boundaries family collection of books dedicated to key areas of life - dating, marriage, raising kids, parenting teens, and leadership. Workbooks and Spanish editions are also available.

©2008 Henry Cloud (P)2017 Zondervan

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A religious self-help book

If you’re a deeply religious person wanting to figure out how to match boundaries with your religion, this book is probably for you.

As an atheist it wasn’t for me - the continued references to Genesis and the New Testament meant it interferes with my learning.

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Far too much religion for me

I did not finish it as it has too many quotes from the bible and it out me off,

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Basically Bible verses

Some good points but just seems to focus on the Bible. Just disappointed in this book.

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Meaty, enlightening, awakening book!!

Awakening,challenging, enlightening book!! Much needed for all relationships, much needed. Digest and meditate in chapters. Excellent book!! I'm more aware of my feelings and how l treat others.

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great.

very inspiring and it has challenged me to develop boundaries high internally and externally. word based.

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A must read book

will dedinitely recommend it for anyone finding it difficult to deal with other in any kind of relationship.

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Good For Any Relationship

Its an exceptionally good for anyone who are experiencing problems in any relationship. Help you with self-awareness. Will recommend it to anyone.

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GREAT- fully recommended!

This is a life changing book! Important- Have a support network around you - LOVE conquers all

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  • Victoria Robben
  • 06-06-18

Wonderful but should probably mention religion or the Bible in title

This is a great book. All the information, examples, and strategies related to boundaries was wonderful! I wish I learned this earlier! It’s helped me so much already, and will continue to help me be more responsible and healthier in my relationships, work, home life, and health. Psychologically sound, with lots of insight and practical wisdom. I’m not religious and at first was a little turned off by all the biblical references, but they were presented very well and from a rational and helpful perspective. No shaming, blaming, guilt, or judgment. I enjoyed learning about the Bible from this positive perspective.

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  • Vikki
  • 20-07-18

LIFE CHANGING

I would recommend this book to all Christians and non-Christians alike. This book details concrete examples of boundaries and why they are so important. By the end it gives you the steps you will need to implement boundaries and live a healthy non-destructive lifestyle. This book will help you identify what might be holding you back. I never expected to feel so great about a book. I have since gifted this book to 5 people 😀

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  • 15-05-18

Life changing

There was nothing in this book that I didn’t like. It has opened my eyes and giving me insight and understanding of why my life is such a mess. I’ve been incorporating boundaries in my life and it is amazing how much better my life is becoming. Still a work in progress but this gives me so much hope for a better life.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 07-01-19

A bit Christian heavy but helpful none the less

as with anything they'll be some words you take with you in some words you leave behind

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  • Archelena McDonald
  • 13-03-18

PHENOMENAL!!!!!

TRULY! THIS BOOK IS A MUST READ/LISTEN. I PURCHASED THE HARD COPY BUT HAD TO THEN BUY THE AUDIBLE DUE TO MY HECTIC SCHEDULE. NEVERTHELESS, IT WAS WORTH EVERY PENNY! I THANK GOD FOR TEACHING US HOW TO LOVE OURSELVES AS WE SIMULTANEOUSLY LOVE OTHERS THROUGH HEALTHY BOUNDARIES. THANKS BE TO GOD FOR USING THESE AUTHORS AS VESSELS FOR SHARING HIS WORD! 🙏

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  • Thomas Wells
  • 20-03-18

Good book, but the reader...

What do you think the narrator could have done better?

The narrator seemed to run on. It felt like he did not give enough time between sentences and thoughts in the book. Like maybe he was rushing through it.

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I do wish the book had a few more examples that are based on what the people actually did. There were a few but, I felt the book could use a few more to show the reader/ listener how and why the person came to the boundary. A little more explanation on understanding how to set appropriate boundaries too. I really enjoyed the biblical context showing that if you can parse it, The Bible is an instruction manual to life. I will definitely be listing to this book several more times!

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  • Nicole Lookabaugh
  • 20-02-18

Great Book

I enjoyed this very much. Great content and practical steps to achieve great relationships and a fullfilling life.

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  • P. P. Clem
  • 12-01-19

Title ought to be “Boundaries According to God”

I was very disappointed with this purchase. The book title and summary craftily muted the religious overtones in this book. My bad for not reading more reviews. Book cover artist should have drawn a cross on the cover instead of a line.

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  • Chris S. Robertson
  • 09-01-19

Woah! This is almost like reading the bible!

The title, subtitle and description are quite misleading. This is a religious book with some comments about boundaries. This book nearly contains more quotes from the bible than words written by the authors. This value of the book for people who aren't very Christian is nearly zero. I had to stop listening after 45 minutes as I couldn't stand hearing verse after verse after versa as the authors strung together verses trying to tell some kind of story. Even my girlfriend who attends church weekly wasn't able to keep listening.

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  • Timothy J Grzybowski
  • 17-07-18

Absolutely Amazing! This book changed my life!

this book was amazing! It changed my whole understanding of life! I grew up in a textbook perfect family...parents stayed together, siblings and I were all close, and dad was a pastor in a Lutheran Church. but yet I knew something had to be missing because I'd already been divorced once and was having issues with my kids and my siblings and my parents and another personal relationship as an adult, and I just always felt like I wasn't a good enough Christian to top all that!. after reading this book I have conviction in my No! in order to set boundaries and I'm confident that I'm following God's will as I better myself and help myself to create good relationships with God fearing people that will support my own quest in life life and give me overall happiness! I recommend this book to everyone out there who is wondering if what you're giving is not enough even though you're exhausted everyday of your life!

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