Behind the Lies

Lying is a part of everyday life. Small white lies smooth over awkward moments, protect feelings, or make social situations easier. But for some, lying isn’t occasional — it’s constant. For compulsive liars, deception becomes second nature, a reflex so ingrained it shapes their identity. Their world is built on shifting ground, where truth and fiction blur until even they may no longer know the difference.

Behind the Lies takes listeners deep into the psychology of compulsive liars, exploring not just what they do, but why they do it. Also known as mythomania or pseudologia fantastica, compulsive lying is more than habit — it’s a complex psychological behaviour rooted in insecurity, attention-seeking, fear of rejection, and a need for control. Understanding it matters because compulsive lying affects every corner of life: destroying trust in relationships, undermining workplaces, and even shaping the behaviour of leaders and public figures.

This book unpacks ten core psychological traits that define compulsive liars and offers insight into the maze of their behaviour:

• Deep-seated low self-esteem: why lies become the scaffolding of a fragile self-image.
• The craving for attention: how stories are used to stay at the centre of every conversation.
• Poor impulse control: why lies often slip out before truth has a chance.
• The blurred line between fact and fiction: how repetition can make lies feel real.
• A lack of empathy: why compulsive liars often don’t register the harm they cause.
• Links to personality disorders: how lying can be a symptom of deeper conditions.
• Fear of disapproval: the lies told to avoid rejection or abandonment.
• The thrill of deception (“duping delight”): why some liars actually enjoy the game.
• Verbal creativity: how compulsive liars improvise stories with uncanny skill.
• Habituation: how lying becomes the default response over time.

Written in a conversational, easy-to-understand style, Behind the Lies avoids judgment and seeks understanding. Compulsive liars are not simply “bad people.” Their deception is often tied to deeper emotional wounds, psychological patterns, or unresolved trauma. This doesn’t excuse the damage lies cause, but it helps us approach the behaviour with clarity instead of confusion.

The book draws on psychological research, historical case studies, and real-world examples to show how compulsive lying operates across personal, professional, and social settings. You’ll learn why some lies seem trivial, why others spiral into elaborate fabrications, and why confronting a compulsive liar can feel like arguing with shifting shadows.

Whether you’ve encountered compulsive lying in a colleague, a family member, or a partner — or you’re simply curious about the psychology behind deception — this book provides a roadmap for recognition and understanding. It offers insights that can help protect relationships, set boundaries, and recognise when lying is a symptom of something much deeper.

Behind the Lies doesn’t promise simple fixes. Instead, it illuminates the patterns beneath compulsive deception and helps you see the architecture of a behaviour that thrives in secrecy. By pulling back the curtain, it turns confusion into knowledge and judgment into insight.

Because the truth is this: lies may conceal, but understanding reveals.