Before and after you say "I do" is a resource book written with you in mind, for people going into the oldest institution in history that you do not get trained before you enter into it and receive a certificate the same day. The purpose of the book is to make sure you avoid pitfalls in marriage and ensure that you have a good chance of making a success of your marriage. The goal is to help couples know what to look for and how to prepare for a lifelong relationship with their spouse. It seeks to encourage more people to remain in their marriage relationship and enjoy the union; acknowledging their strength, weaknesses, and most especially acknowledging God. A good marriage does not just happen; it takes the effort of both husband and wife to create the atmosphere where unconditional love, respect, friendships, commitment, and faithfulness thrives. Marriage is honorable and a man who finds a wife has found a good thing and has obtained favor of the lord. A woman who is found is a jewel to her husband and she is blessed amongst women.