On Her New Lens, host Dr. Tricia Rose Stone interviews author and traveler Chanoa Inez about losing her 41-year-old boyfriend, Bodo, who died unexpectedly in his sleep from a clot the morning after what she called the most perfect day of her life in Montenegro.

Chanoa describes the shock, choosing to stay in Europe for Orthodox grieving traditions, and years of unprocessed grief that coincided with chronic health issues, food sensitivities, and tendonitis.

Through modalities including yoga, retreats, EFT tapping, and especially Dr. Joe Dispenza meditations and a 2023 Denver retreat, she recognized long-standing victim mindset patterns, low self-love reflected in toxic relationships, and how “shoulds” and martyrdom kept her stuck.

She shares tips such as recognizing exhausting situations, advocating for one’s inner child, and reframing self-love as refusing to give away power. Listeners can find her book Dream On at ChanoaInez.com.

00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro

01:17 Perfect Day Turns Tragic

03:14 Shock and Calling for Help

04:38 Staying in Europe to Grieve

05:36 Health Crashes and Healing Quest

07:47 Victim Mindset Revealed

11:29 Breaking Toxic Relationship Patterns

15:27 Self Love and Deep Meditation Tools

19:29 Healing Results and Body Signals

20:57 Self Love vs Victim Identity

25:10 Practical Tips and Inner Child Work

28:17 Where to Find the Book

28:57 Final Takeaways and Call to Share