Divorce, remarriage, and blended families can quietly rewrite your estate plan—unless you rewrite it first. We dig into how North Carolina law treats spouses before and after marriage, from inchoate rights in real property to the elective share and the year’s allowance, then map the steps that keep your wishes intact without sparking a courtroom brawl. Along the way, we highlight the silent saboteurs: beneficiary designations, joint accounts, POD/TOD forms, life insurance, and retirement plans that do not auto-update after divorce and can send your life’s savings to the wrong person.

We share practical strategies for planning around a new marriage, including prenups and postnups, coordinated wills and trusts, and clear instructions that balance support for a spouse with protection for children from a prior relationship. We explain when a trust can calm family tensions, why an old will won’t shield your estate from a spouse’s statutory rights, and how elective share percentages scale with the length of marriage. We also cover real-world pitfalls—like estranged spouses who resurface at probate, and assumptions about common law marriage that don’t hold in North Carolina.

If you’re separated, finalizing the divorce matters; if you’re newly single or newly coupled, updating every document and designation matters even more. We offer a concise checklist, candid examples, and legal context so you can act with clarity and avoid avoidable fights. Ready to protect your plan and your people? Subscribe, share this episode with someone navigating divorce or remarriage, and leave a review with your top estate planning question—we may answer it on a future show.