This is an unexpected episode on account of the pain the news is causing so many survivors (myself included!). How do we continue to function let alone thrive when the messages we keep on getting is that perpetrators rights to do whatever they feel like doing trump our basic human rights including safety?

I realise that this is a very sensitive topic and it is also a topic that impacts an enormous amount of people, huge amount of people, not just women but predominantly women and girls.

An enormous amount is coming up for healing. Sunlight is a wonderful disinfectant but if you’re feeling raw, tender, hopeless or anything else right now, know that you’re not alone. Know that you looking after yourself (and accessing all the available supports and resources you want and need) and not giving up is a radical act.

You deserve love. You deserve safety. You deserve care. You deserve pleasure. You deserve ALL good things and I hope the resources I share in this week’s episode will help you reconnect with your own favourites, too.

Let me know how you’re getting on by email or in the comments.

le grá (with love),

Eve

CHAPTERS [these may be a little off this week due to episode order changing]

0:00 News, sexual violence and collective triggering

0:27 Podcast intro, resources, and newsletter

3:04 Bandwidth, dysregulation and the Feel. Love. Heal. framework

4:46 Feel – nervous system regulation and embodied safety

5:45 Love – radical self-acceptance in painful times

6:15 Heal – community, accountability and collective care

7:39 Reclaiming your body and sensory self-regulation

10:06 Healing is not linear – from despair to thriving

13:19 Co-regulation, belonging and survivor communities

16:24 Survivor stories, activism and the power of solidarity

18:49 Power, oppression and not giving in to despair

19:45 Choosing gentleness and imagining a better world

20:47 Episode closing and next week’s episode

LINKS

7 Simple and Effective Self-care Tools for Trauma Survivors

https://selfcarecoaching.net/2018/09/28/7-simple-and-effective-self-care-tools-for-trauma-survivors/

https://selfcarecoaching.net/trauma/ Access more self-care, Self care and collective care resources

https://selfcarecoaching.net/feline Find out more about the Polyvagal Purrs approach

FULL TRANSCRIPT

We’re basically being given the message time and time again with Irish headlines about [convicted] sexual predators getting less [time in prison] than speeding offenders, with the whole Epstein files… So many examples of sexual predators getting away with it and that can be incredibly triggering.

Hi, I’m Eve Menezes Cunningham and you’re listening to the Feel Better Every Day Podcast.

You can find out more and access older episodes at thefeelbettereverydaypodcast.com and you can also access loads of free resources and find out more about the book 365 Ways to Feel Better: Self-care Ideas for Embodied Wellbeing and the column I write for Platinum every month, other titles I contribute to, my work, loads of free resources I’ve...