What if the thing that triggers you most about your child's behaviour is actually showing you exactly what needs healing in you?

In this solo episode, I wanted to lean into something that I've been exploring for nearly 20 years – why parenting feels so hard, and why we react the way we do. Because whilst we all start off hoping we'll be calm and connected, the reality is often frustration, shame, guilt, and wondering why our kids push our buttons so intensely.

This isn't about more parenting tools or strategies. It's about understanding what's happening inside of us when we get triggered, and how the way we were raised creates the imprints that show up in how we parent today.

We explore:

• How childhood imprints shape the parent you become
• Why triggers are messengers (not proof you're failing)
• The behaviorism paradigm most of us grew up in
• How unmet needs in childhood create reactive patterns in adulthood
• Connection before cooperation – and why it matters
• Putting your own oxygen mask on first (it's not selfish, it's essential)

What I hope you take from this is that you're not broken. You're human. And often our biggest triggers are invitations to lean in and do the healing work – not just for us, but for the generations that come after us. Because when we understand our stories, we can choose which parts we want to keep and which parts we want to let go.

It's a big job, raising conscious humans. But I promise you, it's worth it.

[Recorded October 2025]

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