When chronic illness enters a relationship, it often feels like an uninvited guest that takes up all the space at the table. But does a diagnosis have to mean the end of intimacy, joy, and connection?

In this episode of The Chronic Brew, we’re sitting down with Lisa Gray, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and author of the groundbreaking book, Thriving in a Relationship When You Have Chronic Illness. Lisa brings a unique "double-shot" of perspective to the show: she is a clinical expert in couples therapy and a fellow "spoonie" living with hEDS (hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome).

We dive deep into the first chapter of her book to discuss why communication is the ultimate lifeline, how to break out of the "caregiver vs. patient" trap, and how to protect your identity as a couple when the "how" of your life starts to change.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Sweet or Bitter: Lisa plays our signature icebreaker game, reacting to the relatable highs and lows of chronic life.

• The Communication Filter: Why "Chapter One" communication strategies are a game-changer for couples in crisis.

• Identity Protection: How to remember that your relationship is not your illness.

• The Espresso Shot Round: Rapid-fire advice for navigating flares, maintaining intimacy, and finding resilience.

About Our Guest: Lisa Gray, LMFT, is an author and therapist specializing in helping couples navigate the complexities of chronic illness. After a decade-long career as an air traffic controller, she transitioned into therapy to help others find calm in the turbulence of life. She is the author of Thriving in a Relationship When You Have Chronic Illness and Healthy Conflict, Happy Couple.

Connect with Lisa:

• Website: lisagrayauthor.com

• Clinical Practice: lisagraymft.com

• Instagram: @TherapyBookNook

Grab the Book: https://lisagrayauthor.com/books/thriving-in-a-relationship-when-you-have-chronic-illness-navigate-challenges-and-keep-your-relationship-strong-using-acceptance-and-commitment-therap-lisa-gray/9781648486081

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Keep your spirits high and your coffee hot.