Why Looking at Your Numbers Feels So Hard (And How to Make It Safe Again)
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About this listen
So many women think their money struggles are about discipline, willpower, or “not being good with numbers.”
Most of the time, they’re not.
They’re about safety.
In this episode of Loving Your Life Again, Christina continues the conversation about the nervous system and brings it into a very real, very practical place: your relationship with your money and your numbers.
You’ll explore why looking at your finances can trigger overwhelm, shutdown, or control — and why that doesn’t mean you’re bad at money. It means your nervous system learned that money wasn’t safe.
Christina breaks down the two most common survival responses around money:
- Avoidance (not looking, procrastinating, “I’ll deal with it later”)
- Hypervigilance (over-checking, over-controlling, over-restricting)
Both are protective strategies. Neither means you’re broken.
You’ll also hear why:
- Your numbers are not a verdict on your worth or success
- Mixing personal and business finances often creates unnecessary overwhelm
- Separating them is not just a financial best practice — it’s a nervous-system intervention
- You don’t need a perfect system — you need a simple, tolerable, repeatable one
- Safety and capacity come before consistency and discipline
This episode includes a gentle check-in to meet yourself where you are, without shame or pressure, and to help you identify the next kind, supportive step forward.
If you’ve ever felt:
- Overwhelmed by your numbers
- Afraid to look at your finances
- Or stuck in a cycle of avoidance or over-control
This episode will help you understand why — and how to begin creating clarity in a way your nervous system can actually sustain.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn
- Why money is a nervous system issue, not just a mindset issue
- The difference between avoidance and hypervigilance around finances
- Why your numbers are neutral information, not a moral score
- How separating personal and business finances reduces overwhelm
- What kind of system actually works for a stressed nervous system
- How to take the next step without pressure, shame, or burnout
Christina is currently creating a workshop to help you:
- Separate personal and business finances
- Clean up you
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