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All the Young Men

How One Woman Risked It All to Care for the Dying

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All the Young Men

By: Ruth Coker Burks, Kevin Carr O'Leary
Narrated by: Ruth Coker Burks
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'If I have one message with this book it's that we all have to care for one another. Today, not just in 1986. Life is about caring for each other, and I learned more about life from the dying than I ever learned from the living. It's in an elephant ride, it's in those wildflowers dancing on their way to the shared grave of two men in love, and it's in caring for that young man who just needed information without judgement.'

In 1986, 26-year-old Ruth Coker Burks visits a friend in hospital when she notices that the door to one of the patient's rooms is painted red. The nurses are reluctant to enter, drawing straws to decide who will tend to the sick person inside. Out of impulse, Ruth herself enters the quarantined space and begins to care for the young man who cries for his mother in the last moments of his life.

And in doing so, Ruth's own life changes forever.

As word spreads in the community that she is the only person willing to help the young men afflicted by the growing AIDS crisis, Ruth goes from being an ordinary young mother to an accidental activist. Forging deep friendships with the men she helps, Ruth works to find them housing and jobs, and then funeral homes willing to take their bodies - often in the middle of the night. She prepares and delivers meals to 'her guys,' supplementing her own income with discarded food found in the dumpsters behind supermarkets. She defies local pastors and the medical community to store rare medications for her most urgent patients and teaches sex education to drag queens after hours at secret bars. Emboldened by the weight of their collective pain, she fervently advocates for their safety and visibility, ultimately advising Governor Bill Clinton on the national HIV-AIDS crisis and in doing so becomes a beacon of hope to an otherwise spurned group of ailing gay men on the fringes of society.

Ruth kept her story a secret for years, fearful of repercussions within her deeply conservative community. But at a time when it's more important than ever to stand up for those who can't, Ruth has found the courage to have her voice - and the voices of those who were stigmatised, rejected and abandoned - heard.

©2020 Ruth Coker Burks (P)2020 Orion Publishing Group
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Critic reviews

"This book will make you love her as much as I do." (Former President Bill Clinton)

"Breath-taking courage and compassion [...]a beautiful book." (The Sunday Times)

"A renegade Florence Nightingale cares for the ill in a remarkable tale of compassion and combating prejudice." (Guardian)

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Started to get book anxiety by half way though that I was hearting Ruth tell her story so much that I knew I'd be sad when it finished.
Amazing tale of caring for people amid the stark disdain of the supposed christian folk. That supercilious religious hypocrisy has always fascinated me and this book describes it so well.
What an incredible life Ruthie, I will never forget this lovely book and I will recommend it to everyone.

everyone read it

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A beautiful story narrated by a beautiful soul. Everybody needs to listen to this book!

Laughter, tears and everything in between

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In this book. Sadly I’ve had to abandon it as I can’t stand the narrator so I’m going to buy the book instead.

I’m sure there is a wonderful story

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Just wow. This story needs to be heard by all! Such a gorgeous Angel in Ruth and her daughter. It’ll stay with me forever.

A precious story

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This is such a beautiful but horrendous book at the same time. Ruth’s dedication, determination, perseverance, guts and selflessness brought me to tears so many times. I can’t believe how awful people can be and my heart breaks for those young men who’s families deserted them when they needed them most. Thank god they had Ruthy and her loving support. I still can’t believe the medical community didn’t embrace her and use her extensive knowledge for good. I just hope she’s living a wonderful loving life now with her lovely family and is looking after herself too. Such a difficult listen but so important, especially for people who are too young to remember the AIDS crisis. Thank you Ruth for everything you did for all those wonderful souls and for bringing your story to us ❤️

Heartbreaking, shocking but so full of love

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