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A Terrible Intimacy

Interracial Life in the Slaveholding South

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A Terrible Intimacy

By: Melvin Patrick Ely
Narrated by: Janina Edwards, Ron Butler
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From a Bancroft Prize-winning historian, a revelatory new account of slavery, uncovering a surprising web of relationships between Black and white people that ranges far beyond the familiar template of “master-slave” dynamics

A white man hosts a wedding party for his Black servant and finds himself charged with a criminal offense; an overseer ends up dead after getting drunk with a slave; two men, one poor and white and the other enslaved, team up to plot a murder.

A Terrible Intimacy recounts six criminal cases in one Virginia county in the years preceding the Civil War. Witnesses of both races describe a startling variety of encounters between white and Black that reconfigures the binary terrain of “master-slave” relations.

Contrary to our common assumption, fully half the enslaved people in the South lived not on sprawling plantations but on small properties. Cruelty was baked into the system, yet in households of five, ten, fifteen, or twenty people, exploiters and exploited knew each other well, sharing religious worship, folkways, and complex domestic dynamics. Slaves, slave owners, overseers, and poor whites drank, played, slept, and even committed crimes together. Yet whippings happened often, enslaved families were split up, and in 1861, most white men in Prince Edward County were ready to fight to defend their right to own other human beings.

These webs of interaction make clear that white Americans recognized the humanity of their Black neighbors, even as they remained committed to a system that abused and sometimes terrorized them. Offering striking new insights into the true complexity of life in the old South, A Terrible Intimacy expands our understanding of this darkest of histories.

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Critic reviews

"In his mesmerizing new book, Melvin Ely takes us into the courtrooms of the antebellum South. There he unfolds in front of us the trials of small-time slave owners, their overseers, their neighbors, and the men and women they claimed as their property. The results are stunning, disturbing, and absolutely revelatory."
Kevin Boyle, National Book Award-winning author of Arc of Justice: A Saga of Race, Civil Rights and Murder in the Jazz Age

"In this eloquent and humane book, Melvin Ely ventures into the tangled legal record of American slavery. Turning over pieces of evidence, in conversation with the reader, Ely finds meaning and coherence hidden in the fragments. The unique book that emerges reveals an American South of tortured subtlety, of common humanity twisted by enslavement."
Edward L. Ayers, author of The Thin Light of Freedom: The Civil War and Emancipation in the Heart of America

"With A Terrible Intimacy, Melvin Ely takes readers on a guided tour back and forth across the color line in the years before the Civil War. Out of the files of Virginia’s courts spill stories of regret, resentment, compassion, gossip, envy, fear, affection, attachment, fury, betrayal, deceit. What results is an often-startling exploration of the difference that race made—and sometimes didn’t."
Christopher L. Brown, author of Moral Capital: Foundations of British Abolitionism

"Opening a unique window into the historian's craft, Ely pieces together shards of evidence from court cases to reveal a variety of interracial interactions in the white supremacist, slaveholding South. Such variety, as these court records starkly dramatize, did not mitigate the disfiguring barbarity of slavery as a system that always depended on violence, and on the threat of violence."
Elizabeth R. Varon, author of Longstreet: The Confederate General Who Defied the South

"Here is an unusually penetrating look at human interactions in a slave society. By investigating six exceptionally well-documented cases, Melvin Ely exposes important truths often lost in more general books about American slavery. Everyone interested in the history of slavery will want to read this book."
—Gregory May, author of A Madman's Will: John Randolph, Four Hundred Slaves, and the Mirage of Freedom

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