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Are you Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? How the science of adult attachment can help you find – and keep – love

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By: Amir Levine, Rachel Heller
Narrated by: Robert Petkoff
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'A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship.' John Gray, PhD., bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

An insightful look at the science behind love, Attached offers listeners a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections.

Is there a science to love? In this groundbreaking audiobook, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory – the most advanced relationship science in existence today – can help us find and sustain love.

Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment explains that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner’s ability to love them back.

Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.

Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

With fascinating psychological insight, quizzes and case studies, Dr Amir Levine and Rachel Heller help you understand the three attachment styles, identify your own and recognize the styles of others so that you can find compatible partners or improve your existing relationship.

'For its many, many fans, Attached has been life changing.' - Stylist

‘Over a decade after its publication, one book on dating has people firmly in its grip’ – The New York Times

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Critic reviews

Should be essential reading for everyone. Reading this book I understood for the first time why my love life was the way it was . . . Such a vital read to help you understand your own behaviour and that of others. (Marianne Power)
Revelatory (The New York Times)
A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship. (John Gray, PhD., bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)
Chock-full of tips, questionnaires, and case studies, this is a solidly researched and intriguing approach to the perennial trials of looking for love in all the right places and improving existing relationships.
A practical, enjoyable guide to forming rewarding romantic relationships.
A valuable tool whether you are just entering a relationship with a new partner or – as in my case – even after you've been married twenty-one years, and had thought you knew everything about your spouse.
For its many, many fans, Attached has been life changing.
Anyone who has been plagued by that age-old question – 'What is his deal?" – could benefit from a crash course in attachment theory.
A fascinating and enormously useful guide to one of life's most important ventures – finding and sustaining a secure, satisfying love relationship. (Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, Distinguished Professor of Psychology, University of California, Davis and Past President, International Association for Relationship Research)
I have lost count of the number of times that I have recommended this book to clients. In it, the authors explain a complicated subject in brilliantly accessible terms, to help us better understand ourselves and the way we form relationships, enabling us all to heal from past wounds and build better futures. (Emma Reed Turrell, author of What am I Missing?)
This book is both fascinating and fun. Attached will help every reader understand whom they are attracted to as partners, why, and what they can do to reach fulfillment in love. I enjoyed every moment. (Janet Klosko, PhD., co-author of the bestselling Reinventing Your Life)
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I don't often bother with writing reviews, although I always read those other people have left before buying anything. I'm also sceptical about whether they're genuine.
Trust me, This one is true.

I can't recommend this book highly enough. It is the ultimate cheat-code to relationships. In one book, you'll find the secret to happiness. It doesn't boggle the mind with psychoanalysis, nor does it explore mental health conditions. It just tells you how to look at the here and now and understand both your own behaviour and your partner's behaviour, from an attachment style perspective. Even better, it offers sensible advice for those either wanting to improve or leave a relationship and even gives tips on how to change your own behaviour and responses for the better.

Buy this book, read or listen to it it again and again, then give it to your teenaged and adult children. It's a life hack that everyone truly needs to know about.

Best relationship advice you'll find

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This audio book has changed my perspective on past relationships.
It has changed the way I look back on why things have not worked out how I would like in the past and the content discussed here will be used to make more informed decisions in future relationships.
I would highly recommend for anyone struggling to make sense of the difficult world of dating and romance.

Truly life changing

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Really helps you understand the different attachment types and how they work or don't together and how to manage clashing types 👌

A great tool for relationships

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You can start at any point, and get the jist. Love the breakdown of details.

Love it.

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this audio book really helped me to get an understanding of myself and my attachment style. I'm really learning to not feel bad about my style and understand I can be loved.

brilliant

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