Compassionate

I downloaded this after hearing Nina on a podcast.
What endeared me to her and what parts of this book I appreciate the most are the constant calls to reconciliation and to stop listening to the goading of society which has petulance as its modus operandi. Or so I believe.

Interestingly enough, during the podcast I heard her on; Nina’s final take was for us to ‘re-enchant the world’. Gosh! So wonderful.

Whether or not I believe that we are pitted against each other to the extent that this book says. We probably are, and obviously she’s collating the evidence that it IS out there……it’s the way she simply asks to just enjoy each other.

I’ll not be as poetic. But she makes multiple points of sweet naivety for us to unify. To accept all about us as world inhabiting and world sharing beings. Literally; what other option is out there?

I’ve been recently exposed to this idea of ‘Unconditional Positive Regard’ which if I (or you! :)) don’t take on; then a living hell awaits :)

Men this, men that; it’s the small and powerful ways Nina shows us a way forward that I found best about this book.

“It’s easy to get everyone to rally around a problem, very hard to get them to rally around a solution” - some right-winger in America :)

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Welcome and constructive

Refreshingly sane and balanced look at this contentious area. A couple of blind spots seem to be a baffling scepticism about the prevalence of hypergamy (see Diana Fleischmann), and the seemingly universal focus on the worst elements in society as being informative about the rest.

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Lovely book...

... among a lot of other things she is good on what power is really like (the messiness of 'patriarchy' for instance); how class differs from power and is being ignored by current fashions. A well-argued attempt overall to lay down something that will improve relations between the sexes and within them. NP's Substack, a strange blend of prose-poetry and philosophy, is compelling too.

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Honest, Fair and Reasonable

Nina Power is one of our most important cultural critics and philosophers. Her assessments are balanced, fair and reasonable, that these qualities seem to make her views radical is an indictment of the times. I wish there were more like her.

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The best modern analysis of masculinity I’ve come across

And written by a woman. Such empathy. I found this to be an insightful, cogent analysis of masculinity, the lot of men, their place in 21st century Western society, and the relations between the sexes. Can’t recommend it highly enough.

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Nothing Special

Early on in this book, the author seems to assert a view of sex and gender that, I personally sense, could be taken by any transphobic readers to reinforce their ideas/feelings.
As such, it tainted the rest of the listening for me, although I made an effort to persist, as boo and hiss to polarisation and echo chambers.
It seemed very strange for the author to suggest we have moved away from using the word ‘sex’, when concerning biological sex, because we have become embarrassed with the association with sexual intercourse. Whilst not fully infantilising, it again tainted my reading.
Personally, I tend to read books that are research-based and -backed. This book is not, seemingly, with the author instead using a lot of fancy words and phrases to give it an air of intellect. Granted, she uses them well, and may be in line with the social commentary genre she offers here - but the suggestions/content felt lacking and general for me.
When talking about ‘incels’ and the #metoo movement, she seems to suggest a message of “oh don’t worry about it”. Whilst it does sound like an understanding idea to consider the emotional hurt that increases ‘incel’ prevalence, she seems to be dismissing the risk and hurt that has certainly been involved with both, which seems inconsiderate to me.
I had good hopes for this book from the title/blurb, but it fell short.
Sadly, what this man wants, is to continue reading Ivan Jablonka’s book.

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